Unhappy Anniversary

[angaelboi]

Joseph and I are about to hit eight months together, and it's going off with a bang. One stupid foul-up and he can give you the most heartless, heart-rending reactions that any human being has ever given another. I'm not sure if I deserve it or not. I haven't been to bed yet so I couldn't say with any level of coherence. Unfortunately, I lost

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[silverfrost424]

Oh Lindsey, that's the sweetest and saddest thing I've read on the ole Eljay in a while. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Trust me, I know what you're going through, only I've been on the other side of the spectrum. Attention is so dear in a relationship, especially one in which the two parties rarely get to see one another. And you never know if you're giving or receiving "enough." But what is "enough"? What you want? What the other person wants? What I suggest is a sincere, honest, heart-felt, heart-warming talking to. Ask him what it is that he wants and tell him what it is that you want. Don't beat around the bush and stay on topic (this is advice I wish I could follow). But if he means as much to you as you express, and I'm sure he does, then you'll find the right words to say and he'll find the right way to interpret them. I can't tell you how I've felt at times about my own relationship and the occasional lack of communication. Communication is so key, because every word carries weight. The things your friends can say and do won't affect you half as much as the things your lover can say or do. You've got to let him know how you feel just as you've let your readers know.

Okay, this is getting a biiiit too long. I think you get the point. Good luck, Lindsey.

[angaelboi]

Talking about what he wants ex-post facto doesn't help the fact that he wakes up angry as hell as me. We've talked about it before and I thought I'd struck a nice balance. He wasn't upset about where things were at all yesterday. He was when he woke up this morning. Simple mistake means disasterous consequences.