Originally published at How to Crush Without Being Crushed. You can comment here or there.

[The story connected with this came up a couple of times in conversation recently. Going to link to it, I realized I'd never ported it over to this site. It was originally written December 15, 2005 in another journal of mine.]

These stories I tell are my ( Read more... )

Originally published at How to Crush Without Being Crushed. You can comment here or there.

[The story connected with this came up a couple of times in conversation recently. Going to link to it, I realized I'd never ported it over to this site. It was originally written December 5, 2005 in another journal of mine.]

Long ago (back in the late 80s and ( Read more... )

Originally published at How to Crush Without Being Crushed. You can comment here or there.

When you have questions about love and relationships, where do you go for answers?

Who do you trust for advice? What makes you listen to or disregard advice that’s offered?

Are you someone who people come to for relationship advice? Why do you think that is or ( Read more... )

Originally published at How to Crush Without Being Crushed. You can comment here or there.

First impressions count for a lot. If you’re meeting people online, there’s a good chance your profile picture is a hefty part of your first impression.

The crew over at OK Cupid (you know them-they’re a dating site and also one of the big producers of silly ( Read more... )

Originally published at How to Crush Without Being Crushed. You can comment here or there.

With my current schedule getting in the way of all sorts of things, I have yet to write what I planned on for this space.

Luckily, friends in other places stumble across interesting things.

For example, here’s a little vintage educational film about dating…

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...is quite like not dating ( Read more... )

Originally published at Toob Talk. You can comment here or there.

Have you ever fallen for someone without even knowing what they look like? Maybe it was on the phone or, more likely these days, over the Internet. Even then, imagine not seeing a picture of them at all until just before it’s time to make the decision to date them in the real world or ( Read more... )

Friday night was a game night. As usual, it rocked. Lots of time spent having good discussions with good friends I don't do anywhere near enough with. That ran until about 4 a.m., when corpse_light mentioned that his brain was about melted and I realized that, having had a full day at work, mine was well on its way there, too. Headed home and finally got to ( Read more... )

Originally published at How to Crush Without Being Crushed. You can comment here or there.


You’d think that with three years of a totally obsessive and self-destructive crush behind me, I’d have learned my lesson.

Especially with everything else that I started to learn in high school.

Well, you’d be wrong.

I still had a habit of fixating on people ( Read more... )

I had a 1 p.m. lunch date with Cristina down in Reston today. First time since the end of August we've been able to coordinate anything. Last time until May that we'll be able to ( Read more... )