ADVICE needed!!!!
I need advice, internet friends....
So, a friend of mine is getting married next month. She had a falling out with one of her bridesmaids months ago and asked me if I would take her place. Happily, I agreed. Well....she's turned into total bridezilla lately. First, she asked if I would pay 75 dollars for make-up and I told her there was no way I could justify to my husband paying that much for make-up for ONE day. Then she (VERY bitchy-like) told me that she'd just cover the costs because "it had to be done" and asked me if I would "at least" pay for hair. I told her yes because usually that is a lot less expensive. I also agreed to make little treat bags for all her guests (about 100 people) and even told her I'd cover all the costs. She wanted three treats per person, which I knew was going to be a nightmare but I was happy to help. Well...before she asked me to be in the wedding she'd already purchased all the bridesmaid dresses and shoes. The lady who was originally going to be in my place was like twice my size, so there has to be major altering of the dress done. She wanted me to get it done Friday, but I couldn't make it into the shop because there is so much going on at home with my cousin dying, my step mom and dad having problems, and leaving for Portland. I tried to tell her this and her only response was, "So, you didn't get the dress fitted?" She didn't even express any sympathy for the fact that my cousin just died or that I was in the middle of my parents splitting up. I didn't expect her to like come over and offer a shoulder to cry on, but just a little concern goes a long way in my book. Today, because she was on my case about making the treats and getting her cash for my hair, I expressed a little frustration about all the costs involved. I just told her that I didn't think it was fair that I was having to pay a lot more than other bridesmaids for the dress AND having to make all these treats without her even showing appreciation. The other bridesmaids had their dresses and shoes purchased for them in their size...they may have to do minor altering that will MAYBE cost 15-20 bucks, but I was going to have to shell out 60-80. I told her Jeff and I were pretty broke and that our son's birthday is coming up and I wanted to make sure everything was covered. She flipped out and told me I was started drama and that she didn't want me in the wedding any more.
I know it's stressful getting married, but I think she's being completely unreasonable and a little selfish. She tried to throw going to Portland in my face, saying that obviously I had money to do that but not pay for everything for her wedding. Well...I saved up for that trip to see my best friend for months because I hadn't seen her in a year and she's like a sister to me. We're paying for our entire Canada trip on a credit card. We wouldn't do it, but Jeff and I really need this little vacation to reconnect. UGH - what do you all think?