A "thank you" to my ex-boyfriends and lovers.
I just read an entry by someone I've been following for a long time now, The_Hedonist, in which she discussed her feelings on her impending birthday, as well as what brought her to her current position in life. [Side note: if anyone's reading this, she also has some of the most awe-inspiring sex Evarr.]
In any case, she mentioned how, if she had met her partner back in her 20's, she would not have been able to appreciate him and what he brought to the table. I can relate to this...well, I mean, I'm in my late 20's now, but the part about "being in the right place in your life."
If I had met J even a year or two ago, I would have discarded him. Before him, the relationships I had were like feeding bonfires in the rain: exciting and nice to look at while they were going, but also pretty uncomfortable, panicky, and in the end you're all scraped up.
When I started dating J, he was totally unlike the guys who came before him; so quiet and nervous around me. I thought about giving up on him a few times. And then I'd think ok, hold on. You're thinking of walking away from this guy because you're so used to being treated disrespectfully that you're uncomfortable with being courted?
And in that, I've managed (slowly) to not only value J, but also be thankful for those who came before him.
Thank you, ex-boyfriends and lovers. I wouldn't know what I have without you.
In any case, she mentioned how, if she had met her partner back in her 20's, she would not have been able to appreciate him and what he brought to the table. I can relate to this...well, I mean, I'm in my late 20's now, but the part about "being in the right place in your life."
If I had met J even a year or two ago, I would have discarded him. Before him, the relationships I had were like feeding bonfires in the rain: exciting and nice to look at while they were going, but also pretty uncomfortable, panicky, and in the end you're all scraped up.
When I started dating J, he was totally unlike the guys who came before him; so quiet and nervous around me. I thought about giving up on him a few times. And then I'd think ok, hold on. You're thinking of walking away from this guy because you're so used to being treated disrespectfully that you're uncomfortable with being courted?
And in that, I've managed (slowly) to not only value J, but also be thankful for those who came before him.
Thank you, ex-boyfriends and lovers. I wouldn't know what I have without you.