Comments | allsorts46: Identity

allsorts46

Identity

Dec 17, 2008 02:10

Hello, I'm an idiot. I haven't slept for about 38 hours now, but decided that today would be a good day to wash my bedding. Now it still isn't dry yet, so I can't go to bed. My plans for the day have been rearranged constantly, actually. I didn't sleep last night because I ended up watching Star Trek. I didn't get home until half past one. I went ( Read more... )

adele, future, children, bath, willow, travel, merlin

Leave a comment

Back to all threads

anonymous December 20 2008, 03:04:25 UTC

Your obsession with my son has always been rather disturbing and creepy.
Please stick to your own child, if indeed he is yours.

allsorts46 December 20 2008, 06:51:21 UTC

What exactly do you mean by that? Are you suggesting I ignore him? That doesn't seem practical or reasonable. I will be spending time with Adele, and with Merlin. I have no reason at all to doubt that he is mine. Willow is not mine, but he is Adele's son and Merlin's brother. It would be unfair to treat him differently.

I'm not sure why you are implying there is anything harmful here. I'm not 'obsessed' with him individually, he just happened to be the first and only child I have had to care for, which is something I enjoy. He lived with me for a significant enough period of time, and I became attached to him as anyone would. He no longer lives with me, as Merlin does not, but that doesn't mean I care for either of them any less.

anonymous December 20 2008, 12:06:46 UTC

It seems perfectly reasonable. You should not be treating my son as being yours. You were in a relationship that lasted less than a year with Adele - less than the period of a pregnancy even. I would comfortably label you as obssessed - to the point you were wanting parental rights over him (I do however only have Adele's word to go on with that which is a dangerous thing indeed ( ... )

thehippypoet December 20 2008, 15:19:24 UTC

Though this is rather a waste of my time, I'll explain the misunderstanding that led you to conclude I had lied, though I think Ashley and I explained this quite clearly initially ( ... )

anonymous December 20 2008, 17:16:11 UTC

Adele ( ... )

thehippypoet December 20 2008, 20:13:44 UTC

Once again most of this response was completely outside of the point, and certainly nothing to do with Ashley's post. So sorry readers and Ashley ( ... )

allsorts46 December 21 2008, 08:19:51 UTC

It seems this has been debated to death in my absence. I don't really have anything to add, but I will address the points raised by this comment:

I should not be treating your son as mine - what does this actually consist of, in the current situation? Yes, when Adele and I lived together, I acted the same towards Willow as I would had he been my own child. I take it you do not agree, but I think it natural in such a situation, entering a relationship where one partner has a child and the intention is for it to be permanent. The only other person I believe should be able to affect that is the child themselves. As I have expressed several times already, I feel the same way regarding Merlin and whoever becomes the constant presence in his life. We no longer live together, and I have therefore surrendered that role.

"You were more in love with him in that relationship than Adele."In the beginning, no. When the relationship began, I spent time with Adele and Willow together, and I came to love both of them. When it ended, it ended ( ... )

anonymous December 21 2008, 15:03:00 UTC

I think that typically people are a little more sensitive when it comes to entering a relationship where there are children especially when they are are young and there is likely to have been a traumatic event leading up to the prior separation. Few people really choose to exit a relationship when there is a young child. This I am sure you are more than familiar with ( ... )

Leave them alone Kristian anonymous December 21 2008, 18:51:43 UTC

What on earth? You are a miserable little tosser Kristian. Leave them be to sort out their differences. Also, 'your' son hasn't seen enough of you. You need to correct your own insecurities and weirdness before you make comments about a man that wasn't as you say, 'obsessed' by your son, but felt as though he was doing the right thing in trying to be the best person he could for him. Who do you think has spent more time with him? Having a child isn't all about maintenance.... You shouldn't preach when you know nothing of being a father yourself. You are a piece of shit and treated Adele as even less. I believe you have severe psychological issues and you need to leave my friend alone to bring up HER children as she feels fit.

Re: Leave them alone Kristian anonymous December 21 2008, 20:08:48 UTC

Convenient to hide isn't it? No he hasn't seen enough of me. There is mainly Adele to blame for that. I totally agree it isn't just about maintenance. I do however pay it. My concern is however not about Merlin and that certainly is for Adele and Ashley to sort out... although I find her lies about what went on with Chris G. quite disgusting. I personally would want to know if such a thing had happened to me. Ashley has decided to involve himself with Willow which actually *is* my concern ( ... )

Back to all threads