I'm not sure if you know the details of how Chris and I got together-- it's a very long and convoluted story-- I'll be blunt. I cheated on and eventually left my ex-boyfriend (of over 3 years) for Chris. Granted-- my ex and I had a very long and tumultuous relationship. Whatever-- I've never justified what I did, but I have no regrets.
I did feel guilty about leaving my ex, yet I was so happy to be with Chris. And I felt guilty that I was so happy. It was a circle of stupid to say the least. One of the things that was eating me up inside is knowing that this person that I once loved and did everything with (we went to each others proms, graduations, plays, concerts..etc etc) suddenly wasn't there anymore. I was adamant about keeping up a friendship even though I knew it was a terrible idea because he was so angry/disappointed/depressed/whatever. I could hear all of those emotions in his voice when I would try to talk to him-- the guilt I felt was unbearable. I couldn't take it anymore.
I eventually abandoned that friendship and let myself move on and be happy. And he did the same thing. It wasn't until 4 or 5 years later that we became friends again though some crazy happenstance. I have nothing but love for my ex, and I'm sure he feels the same. We talk, e-mail, text, and facebook frequently. He was a lousy boyfriend, but makes an amazing friend.
Thank you for the story, it keeps things in perspective.
Nope that makes plenty of sense. I've honestly gotten the sense that she has rushed some things in this new relationship. Judging by a few sly mentions on Facebook they are moving in together, which is rather quick. But, well whatever. Her decisions, her mistakes, her possible boons.
In regard to my life, I'm moving on. Her willingness to not continue a friendship is decidedly on her at this point. I've been wronged in many things in this and I was very understanding, and wasn't rude or mean, or well anything negative. Just understanding. I've done somethings of late to distance myself from them and their decisions. At this point I'm now worried more about myself, and my future. It's obvious that her and I didn't work out. So now I need to get myself in a place where I can date again, and find someone that wants to be with me.
And honestly? She always made fun of my one true loves; metal music. That's one of the more fucked up things she did while we were together. I didn't talk shit about the pseudo-intellectual self help books she always read whether I liked them or not.
I'm not sure if you know the details of how Chris and I got together-- it's a very long and convoluted story-- I'll be blunt. I cheated on and eventually left my ex-boyfriend (of over 3 years) for Chris. Granted-- my ex and I had a very long and tumultuous relationship. Whatever-- I've never justified what I did, but I have no regrets.
I did feel guilty about leaving my ex, yet I was so happy to be with Chris. And I felt guilty that I was so happy. It was a circle of stupid to say the least.
One of the things that was eating me up inside is knowing that this person that I once loved and did everything with (we went to each others proms, graduations, plays, concerts..etc etc) suddenly wasn't there anymore. I was adamant about keeping up a friendship even though I knew it was a terrible idea because he was so angry/disappointed/depressed/whatever. I could hear all of those emotions in his voice when I would try to talk to him-- the guilt I felt was unbearable. I couldn't take it anymore.
I eventually abandoned that friendship and let myself move on and be happy. And he did the same thing. It wasn't until 4 or 5 years later that we became friends again though some crazy happenstance. I have nothing but love for my ex, and I'm sure he feels the same. We talk, e-mail, text, and facebook frequently. He was a lousy boyfriend, but makes an amazing friend.
Sorry this was so long.
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Nope that makes plenty of sense. I've honestly gotten the sense that she has rushed some things in this new relationship. Judging by a few sly mentions on Facebook they are moving in together, which is rather quick. But, well whatever. Her decisions, her mistakes, her possible boons.
In regard to my life, I'm moving on. Her willingness to not continue a friendship is decidedly on her at this point. I've been wronged in many things in this and I was very understanding, and wasn't rude or mean, or well anything negative. Just understanding. I've done somethings of late to distance myself from them and their decisions. At this point I'm now worried more about myself, and my future. It's obvious that her and I didn't work out. So now I need to get myself in a place where I can date again, and find someone that wants to be with me.
And honestly? She always made fun of my one true loves; metal music. That's one of the more fucked up things she did while we were together. I didn't talk shit about the pseudo-intellectual self help books she always read whether I liked them or not.
I have no idea why I'm focusing on that.
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