hi...

[allmostangel]

well happy late new years to everyone, hope y'all had very happy and merry holidays...it was a pretty good one here...chris and i headed out to appleton to hang with leah and christian...of course we had a blast...and i was as happy as a clam that i got to bring in the new year with my hunneys tongue down my throat..love ya babe!! heh

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[hored]

I agree with you on some points and on others I don't, maybe because I was just in a situation similar to hers. I can see so much of me and Jeremy's last couple months in their relationship... he moved out because he "wanted to work thing out between us" and he thought "being apart would bring back the spark". Riiiiiiiight. What he really wanted was space to find someone else but keep me hanging on in the meantime. He gave me hope that we'd eventually sort everythging out and he'd come back when he had absolutely no intention of doing any such thing, and it only broke my heart worse than if he'd just been honest with me from the start. I know it's not what Amber wants to hear, but that's exactly the situation I see her in.

I do agree with you though that she needs to be independent. Nobody wants a doormat and nobody wants to feel smothered. If she's always sitting around waiting for him to call and runs to him every time he says the word, then he'll never respect her and he'll never want any more from her than he has now. Why should he "give up" his "freedom" and commit to her by moving back in when he has it so good now? She needs to live her own life and have her own interests and her own friends and make him fit into her schedule rather than the other way around.

[patticakes73]

Your last sentence sums up exactly what it was I was trying to say. It's funny how you interpreted my first point because I actually thought about you and Jeremy after I wrote that, however I was kinda speaking from Zach's old point of view, when we decided to be together as a couple when I became PG. He kept telling me that he wasn't ready to "move in" together, and the funny thing was...I hadn't even asked him too!

He finally came to his senses though.

Amber, good luck. I know you're a smart chica and you are going to make the best choices for you and Jayde.

[hored]

I guess I related it more to my situation because like Jeremy and me, Amber and Chris had a relationship and lived together previously while you and Zach were just starting out, so to speak.