Most people definitely would see it as overreacting simply because very few people have the kind of relationship with their parents that we have. A friend of mine said to me that he didn't think that soulmates had to be a romantic thing. He said it could be a friend or a family member. I feel like that's 100% true. I never felt like there was anything that I couldn't tell my Mom. She understood me. We finished each other's sentences. She was really and truly the most important person in my life.
Losing that, it's impossible to not imagine where your life would be. I know my life would be completely different. I can't stop wondering about the life I was supposed to have and the person I was supposed to be.
In about six weeks it's going to be my birthday. Every year my Mom would make me some fabulous delicious cake and decorate it with things that I loved. It didn't matter that my birthday was in August. She knew I loved Halloween so I had pumpkins on my cake. I always looked forward to my birthday because we'd go out and do something fun. I'm not looking forward to it this year. It's just the first in a long stretch of years without her.
Most people would think you were being melodramatic with your posts, but not me. Because no matter how much happiness I might be feeling for whatever reason, it's going to be tainted with the knowledge that my Mom isn't there to share it with me. I never felt alone when she was in my life, now that's pretty much how I feel all the time.
I definitely not believe that soulmates have to be a romantic thing and yes, I know what you mean with being able to tell anything and everything to your mom. Part of me has had to stop thinking of the things we were going to do because it was driving me further and further into depression.
Oh honey, birthdays, yes. My mom died about two months before my 22 birthday, and I spent that whole day sleeping. I had cake with my dad and sisters, said thank you for their gifts, and then I went right back under the blankets where the day didn't exist.
It's not even as if I think or say that I won't get to be happy. I feel that I owe it to my mom, to be as happy as possible, because now I have her share of happiness to live as well. But yes. It's a tainted happiness, most definitely.
Losing that, it's impossible to not imagine where your life would be. I know my life would be completely different. I can't stop wondering about the life I was supposed to have and the person I was supposed to be.
In about six weeks it's going to be my birthday. Every year my Mom would make me some fabulous delicious cake and decorate it with things that I loved. It didn't matter that my birthday was in August. She knew I loved Halloween so I had pumpkins on my cake. I always looked forward to my birthday because we'd go out and do something fun. I'm not looking forward to it this year. It's just the first in a long stretch of years without her.
Most people would think you were being melodramatic with your posts, but not me. Because no matter how much happiness I might be feeling for whatever reason, it's going to be tainted with the knowledge that my Mom isn't there to share it with me. I never felt alone when she was in my life, now that's pretty much how I feel all the time.
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Oh honey, birthdays, yes. My mom died about two months before my 22 birthday, and I spent that whole day sleeping. I had cake with my dad and sisters, said thank you for their gifts, and then I went right back under the blankets where the day didn't exist.
It's not even as if I think or say that I won't get to be happy. I feel that I owe it to my mom, to be as happy as possible, because now I have her share of happiness to live as well. But yes. It's a tainted happiness, most definitely.
Thank you for understanding ♥
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