how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.jack0falltradesOctober 20 2009, 17:15:06 UTC
You might be going through depression, and a vacation might do you some good. Whether or not you end up going to the woods, or to a medical professional, or whatever, remember that there is a light. Even if you can't see it just yet. You've had a rough path, but it reminds me of "stars and the moon" kind of. The easy path isn't always what makes you happy. The bumps in the road are not what form you, but who you are and how you respond to those obstacles is ultimately responsible for who you become. People can love eachother, and not be serving their own ulterior motives. You've been hurt, and it will take some time to come to terms with that. That's only natural. Hell, if you already felt peachy keen about the whole situation, I'd be a bit more worried about you. And whether or not you agree with anything I just said, know that there is love coming from me to you.
(side note, and this I say this with no anger: to make a comment about a person, joking or no, in reference to them once being a man/ woman, with the implication that it makes them somehow "less than" a biological man/woman is considered trans-phobic. Also, even if she were a transwoman and alex were dating her, it would not make him gay. Similarly, as how I identify on the masculine side of the spectrum, if a female-identified person were dating me, I would not like being called a lesbian. I realize that your comment was made in jest and as a result of emotional injury, but I just wanted to let you know that it could be considered pretty offensive. :end educational side-note)
Re: how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.alilquirkyOctober 21 2009, 00:42:08 UTC
Thanks for the love and support and for reassuring me that maybe I'm not, in fact, crazy.
And yah I know...I didn't mean to offend if I did. I was just being angry and emo-ranty. Shes very obviously is a woman who did NOT in fact used to be a man, and I'm pretty sure I said that. So no offense was meant towards actual transgendered people. I was simply making fun of her and the fact that she wears an OVERabundant amount of makeup and has poses on her facebook that look like a drag queen. Again, sorry if that was in any way offensive to you.
Re: how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.jack0falltradesOctober 21 2009, 14:49:50 UTC
"and I'm pretty sure I said that" You did say it, and I knew you were joking. I was never under any impression that she was actually trans, but you implied the possibility as a negative aspect, as if her being trans makes her unappealing.
I just wanted to point out the difference between making fun of her, and comparing her to a trans woman in order to point out her ugliness.
s'ok. You coming up to boone sometime in the near future? (I'm going camping with Kegan this weekend, but during the week?)
Re: how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.alilquirkyOctober 22 2009, 05:19:04 UTC
Yah, offending you or anyone trans was definitely, like, the last thing on my mind. So I'm sorry if I was inadvertantly not very pc. I suck at pc. Jared and I say gay derogatively all time. And I know it's bad...but Jared's a bad influence lol. I shall be much more careful to try not to offend in the future. I feel bad that anyone could take my whiny rantings as trans-phobic, so I'll be more attentive in the future.
ANYWHO, yah, Mike called me today and I believe that we are going to be in town tomorrow? At least I think I am coming in tomorrow after I get off of work. I would absolutely love to be able to stay with you and possibly smoke some hookah. I think I might go by the tobacco store here tomorrow and get something yummy, since I mouched last time, if that's ok with you guys. Probably not for Mike and Mary - I don't imagine them enjoying hookah, but for whoever wants some. I'll probably call you or something tomorrow and we'll figure it all out from there. I am SUPER excited about some fun friend time outside of ol B-town.
You've had a rough path, but it reminds me of "stars and the moon" kind of. The easy path isn't always what makes you happy. The bumps in the road are not what form you, but who you are and how you respond to those obstacles is ultimately responsible for who you become.
People can love eachother, and not be serving their own ulterior motives. You've been hurt, and it will take some time to come to terms with that. That's only natural. Hell, if you already felt peachy keen about the whole situation, I'd be a bit more worried about you.
And whether or not you agree with anything I just said, know that there is love coming from me to you.
(side note, and this I say this with no anger: to make a comment about a person, joking or no, in reference to them once being a man/ woman, with the implication that it makes them somehow "less than" a biological man/woman is considered trans-phobic. Also, even if she were a transwoman and alex were dating her, it would not make him gay. Similarly, as how I identify on the masculine side of the spectrum, if a female-identified person were dating me, I would not like being called a lesbian.
I realize that your comment was made in jest and as a result of emotional injury, but I just wanted to let you know that it could be considered pretty offensive.
:end educational side-note)
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And yah I know...I didn't mean to offend if I did. I was just being angry and emo-ranty. Shes very obviously is a woman who did NOT in fact used to be a man, and I'm pretty sure I said that. So no offense was meant towards actual transgendered people. I was simply making fun of her and the fact that she wears an OVERabundant amount of makeup and has poses on her facebook that look like a drag queen. Again, sorry if that was in any way offensive to you.
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You did say it, and I knew you were joking. I was never under any impression that she was actually trans, but you implied the possibility as a negative aspect, as if her being trans makes her unappealing.
I just wanted to point out the difference between making fun of her, and comparing her to a trans woman in order to point out her ugliness.
s'ok.
You coming up to boone sometime in the near future? (I'm going camping with Kegan this weekend, but during the week?)
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ANYWHO, yah, Mike called me today and I believe that we are going to be in town tomorrow? At least I think I am coming in tomorrow after I get off of work. I would absolutely love to be able to stay with you and possibly smoke some hookah. I think I might go by the tobacco store here tomorrow and get something yummy, since I mouched last time, if that's ok with you guys. Probably not for Mike and Mary - I don't imagine them enjoying hookah, but for whoever wants some. I'll probably call you or something tomorrow and we'll figure it all out from there. I am SUPER excited about some fun friend time outside of ol B-town.
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