When friends move in together....
I had two good friends that I met through belly dancing classes with Amira Jamal back in the day in Boston. Friend A I met first and then after two years I met friend B. We were all supportive to everyone and each other through recitals at BU, performances every where and many of life's events.
Friend A and B both had their own marriages become rocky and dissolved at the same time (come to think of it). Friend A is stuck paying for a $900 lovely apartment on her own and struggles to keep it. Friend B is now separated from her husband, he's out of the house and now she has to pay a mortgage by herself. So what does friend A and B do....you guessed it - move in together.
Now I find this out after they've decided to move into together. Friend A in said $900 beautiful apartment leaves it to live with friend B in the city. I knew that it wouldn't work. I've lived with friends on two separate occasions only not to ever speak to them again...just not interested and realizing that we were into different things.
Anyways...Friends A tells me how tough living with friend A is. I see that in the circumstances she described with friend B but friend A probably hadn't told me her involvement in stuff. Friend A let me see and email correspondences she was having with Friend B. I can see where Friend A and B were both wrong in certain situations. The situation builds up to a point where friend A decides to move out and they never speak again :( ....... The performance in the same restaurant but never on the same night. Friend B avoids Friend A.
I can't help but take some responsibility for the situation because I should have told them not to move in with each other. I've done it and it doesn't work. But on the other hand how could I tell two friends who were going through bad break ups that their great idea of moving in with each would end their friendship. I myself was dating (hate dating), sick of going to weddings and trying to meet a nice guy so I was caught up with what I was doing.
I'm guessing that Friend B assumes that I've takes the side on Friend A. Not true because they are both at fault. It's surprizing how and innocent action can offend someone or set someone off. I still talk with Friend A from time to time. Friend B maybe when I see her or once in a blue moon. I have moved further south in the state compared to Friend A and B. Will they be friends again, I'm hopeful but I don't think that will happen :(
Friend A and B both had their own marriages become rocky and dissolved at the same time (come to think of it). Friend A is stuck paying for a $900 lovely apartment on her own and struggles to keep it. Friend B is now separated from her husband, he's out of the house and now she has to pay a mortgage by herself. So what does friend A and B do....you guessed it - move in together.
Now I find this out after they've decided to move into together. Friend A in said $900 beautiful apartment leaves it to live with friend B in the city. I knew that it wouldn't work. I've lived with friends on two separate occasions only not to ever speak to them again...just not interested and realizing that we were into different things.
Anyways...Friends A tells me how tough living with friend A is. I see that in the circumstances she described with friend B but friend A probably hadn't told me her involvement in stuff. Friend A let me see and email correspondences she was having with Friend B. I can see where Friend A and B were both wrong in certain situations. The situation builds up to a point where friend A decides to move out and they never speak again :( ....... The performance in the same restaurant but never on the same night. Friend B avoids Friend A.
I can't help but take some responsibility for the situation because I should have told them not to move in with each other. I've done it and it doesn't work. But on the other hand how could I tell two friends who were going through bad break ups that their great idea of moving in with each would end their friendship. I myself was dating (hate dating), sick of going to weddings and trying to meet a nice guy so I was caught up with what I was doing.
I'm guessing that Friend B assumes that I've takes the side on Friend A. Not true because they are both at fault. It's surprizing how and innocent action can offend someone or set someone off. I still talk with Friend A from time to time. Friend B maybe when I see her or once in a blue moon. I have moved further south in the state compared to Friend A and B. Will they be friends again, I'm hopeful but I don't think that will happen :(