Gayness
I was just sitting here, reading through a magazine and watching the munchkin when a thought occured to me. Why should being gay make a guy any less of a man in the eyes of the public. I think some points on that are clear however.
Coming from my experiences, a good majority of the gay men out there, no matter the age, seem to have what is called the "Peter Pan Syndrome". It also seems more prevelent upon first emerging from their individual "closets" and wanes as they age and come into their own understanding that feeling different doesn't mean you have to BE different.
Another thing that seems to be a driving force behind why homosexuality seems to make a man "less of a man" in the eyes of society is the gay stereotype, which unfortunatly a lot of guys fall into. Explanation, a lot of gay society has a tendency to fall into acts of debauchery, promiscuous unprotected sex, drinking, drugs, and other unsavory acts. Don't get me wrong, I am not here to condemn having come through that myself, but when you sit and think about it, it really does become something of a revalation doesn't it?
I have had so many friends in the past die of things like overdosing, AIDS, lung cancer, drunk driving...
But what I'm getting at is, I sit here looking at all these fathers. These straight men who walked out on their girlfriends and wives after getting them pregnant, for whatever reason, and i think to myself... wow. I see these children left behind through these acts and how they end up in orphanages, or as wards of the state. I myself, see my closest female friends, dealing with issues like rape, molestation, domestic violence, single parenthood, deadbeat fathers, husbands walking out and leaving them with nothing... then I see in most of these instances, in some form or another, myself... my gay self, seen by a lot of straight men as nothing in life because I do not work a 9 to 5, or have a house, or a car, or even stare at women like meat...
I see myself... stepping in and helping these women pick up the pieces. Not to put them back together, but to reform them into a new mosaic. Helping them with their children, listening to them cry...
Now who's more of a man?
Coming from my experiences, a good majority of the gay men out there, no matter the age, seem to have what is called the "Peter Pan Syndrome". It also seems more prevelent upon first emerging from their individual "closets" and wanes as they age and come into their own understanding that feeling different doesn't mean you have to BE different.
Another thing that seems to be a driving force behind why homosexuality seems to make a man "less of a man" in the eyes of society is the gay stereotype, which unfortunatly a lot of guys fall into. Explanation, a lot of gay society has a tendency to fall into acts of debauchery, promiscuous unprotected sex, drinking, drugs, and other unsavory acts. Don't get me wrong, I am not here to condemn having come through that myself, but when you sit and think about it, it really does become something of a revalation doesn't it?
I have had so many friends in the past die of things like overdosing, AIDS, lung cancer, drunk driving...
But what I'm getting at is, I sit here looking at all these fathers. These straight men who walked out on their girlfriends and wives after getting them pregnant, for whatever reason, and i think to myself... wow. I see these children left behind through these acts and how they end up in orphanages, or as wards of the state. I myself, see my closest female friends, dealing with issues like rape, molestation, domestic violence, single parenthood, deadbeat fathers, husbands walking out and leaving them with nothing... then I see in most of these instances, in some form or another, myself... my gay self, seen by a lot of straight men as nothing in life because I do not work a 9 to 5, or have a house, or a car, or even stare at women like meat...
I see myself... stepping in and helping these women pick up the pieces. Not to put them back together, but to reform them into a new mosaic. Helping them with their children, listening to them cry...
Now who's more of a man?