I completely agree with your post. Here are my additional thoughts:
You can be alone without being lonely (this is my introvertedness and independence). It's better than being alone and lonely. The worst is being lonely when you're surrounded by people.
I think extroverts just need to understand how introverts work. I prefer hanging out with a couple close friends rather than large groups of people at parties or bars. Even then, if I spend too much time with people (with the exception of my boyfriend), I eventually need alone time to recharge.
I too am good at keeping myself entertained. I have many things I can do online, chat with friends, read books, and outside projects that are on my list of things to do when bored.
I've also learned how to be extroverted when it's demanded of me (like when I hang out with people who insist on going out), but it still takes a toll on my energy.
I think people who are insincere about their friendships (like your middle school example) are just gonna have the same thing happen to them eventually. Though this has been an issue for me sometimes, because I'm not always subtle about the fact I don't like certain people. I'm usually nice, but not always friendly. Oh well, they don't matter in our lives anyways :P
Sorry for the long comment, but I totally echo your thoughts here.
Don't be sorry, I appreciate both the time and the effort :)
I do remember your mentioning of the "alone vs. lonely", actually... It helps me to be content with my alone times.
Ditto the "forget those who don't matter in our lives"! I just need to focus on making myself happy, who happens to be the most important person in my life :)
You can be alone without being lonely (this is my introvertedness and independence). It's better than being alone and lonely. The worst is being lonely when you're surrounded by people.
I think extroverts just need to understand how introverts work. I prefer hanging out with a couple close friends rather than large groups of people at parties or bars. Even then, if I spend too much time with people (with the exception of my boyfriend), I eventually need alone time to recharge.
I too am good at keeping myself entertained. I have many things I can do online, chat with friends, read books, and outside projects that are on my list of things to do when bored.
I've also learned how to be extroverted when it's demanded of me (like when I hang out with people who insist on going out), but it still takes a toll on my energy.
I think people who are insincere about their friendships (like your middle school example) are just gonna have the same thing happen to them eventually. Though this has been an issue for me sometimes, because I'm not always subtle about the fact I don't like certain people. I'm usually nice, but not always friendly. Oh well, they don't matter in our lives anyways :P
Sorry for the long comment, but I totally echo your thoughts here.
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I do remember your mentioning of the "alone vs. lonely", actually... It helps me to be content with my alone times.
Ditto the "forget those who don't matter in our lives"! I just need to focus on making myself happy, who happens to be the most important person in my life :)
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