aha!
i've been reading a book titled "full house." i'll give an actual review once i'm finished, but as i read this weekend, i had a few aha! moments that are currently ammusing me this morning.
i'm ammused by them, because each of them were so particular to my "frame" that i can't effectively share them. to get the same aha! you would have to have read several other books that i've also read, *and* bring away the same lessons from each of them that i did.
but that, of course, isn't going to (and shouldn't) happen. restated, if i were to try to describe them, i'd have to describe the frame or system that makes the particular thought interesting to me. at which point you are much more likely to say "so what" than "wow, that's neat:"
The only learning which significantly influences behaviour is self-discovered, self-appropriated learning. As soon as an individual tries to communicate such experience directly, often with a quite natural enthusiasm, it becomes teaching, and its results are either unimportant or damaging.
(Carl Rogers)
i sometimes run into the same problemm writing code. i'll write something that i think is gorgeous, but if i share it with someone who thinks about the problem differently, or is just optimizing a different set of conditions, they'll think it's gross. that usually gets me wondering how people communicate at all. we all have our own frames, relate to things in our own way, and generally spend so little time listening or working outside this model, that we bring away drastically different lessons from the same conversation
i'm ammused by them, because each of them were so particular to my "frame" that i can't effectively share them. to get the same aha! you would have to have read several other books that i've also read, *and* bring away the same lessons from each of them that i did.
but that, of course, isn't going to (and shouldn't) happen. restated, if i were to try to describe them, i'd have to describe the frame or system that makes the particular thought interesting to me. at which point you are much more likely to say "so what" than "wow, that's neat:"
The only learning which significantly influences behaviour is self-discovered, self-appropriated learning. As soon as an individual tries to communicate such experience directly, often with a quite natural enthusiasm, it becomes teaching, and its results are either unimportant or damaging.
(Carl Rogers)
i sometimes run into the same problemm writing code. i'll write something that i think is gorgeous, but if i share it with someone who thinks about the problem differently, or is just optimizing a different set of conditions, they'll think it's gross. that usually gets me wondering how people communicate at all. we all have our own frames, relate to things in our own way, and generally spend so little time listening or working outside this model, that we bring away drastically different lessons from the same conversation