Weekend Snow Trip
I had a great time up in Tahoe this weekend. I took Friday and Monday off work so it's one of the few vacations I've let myself have over the years. The place we rented was a HUGE 3 story house with plenty of room for all 17 of us. Most of Friday I spent getting ready to go and driving up with my roommates, it took about 8 hours and I slept after driving to San Jose. Saturday we went up the mountains a bit to go sledding (boy am I out of shape). I also drove T to the doctor afterward because she hurt her hand. The next day was spent mostly lounging about the place and talking with everyone.
I found that I wasn't feeling out-of-place like I usually do in crowds. I flitted about between groups, but felt comfortable joining in conversations because I felt very accepted there. I think I've realized that one of my hang-ups isn't that I'm shy. Shy is a condition. If one is shy, then it's hard to do X, where X is some social skill. I realized this weekend that I do in fact have social skills. The problem is that I'm passive. If I want people to react to me I have to react to them. Being passive isn't a condition, it's just a tendency to not be assertive even when I am supposed to be. When I let people know what I'm thinking and feeling I found out that I do get positive feedback.
I found that I wasn't feeling out-of-place like I usually do in crowds. I flitted about between groups, but felt comfortable joining in conversations because I felt very accepted there. I think I've realized that one of my hang-ups isn't that I'm shy. Shy is a condition. If one is shy, then it's hard to do X, where X is some social skill. I realized this weekend that I do in fact have social skills. The problem is that I'm passive. If I want people to react to me I have to react to them. Being passive isn't a condition, it's just a tendency to not be assertive even when I am supposed to be. When I let people know what I'm thinking and feeling I found out that I do get positive feedback.