My Autobiography.

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Fill this out in YOUR OWN WORDS and repost as "My Autobiography"

Prologue

1.Where did you take your default pic?
It's not a picture :)

2.What exactly are you wearing right now?
AE jeans.  Abercrombie T-Shirt.

3.What is your current problem?
i want to get laid. i have history homework. stupid boy.

^^ I have the same problems as Lindsay!!! Haha

Comments

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well here, i'll write it here...and I see that you screen your comments...and I didnt know if you wanted this information in your personal journal

1. the "making or breaking" the relationship dealie

- is it the amount you're having sex that he's worried about or how good you are? lets say you were in some sort of accident where you couldnt have sex for a while...what would this do to him?

2. Yes, you are correct, blow jobs should be used as foreplay...not only play

Set aside an entire afternoon, making sure he has nowhere to go at any time... Start off the conversation like this "i know that we have talked about this before, but I really want to talk about this in a civilized manner without an argument. I've noticed that our relationship has been less than I've wanted, communication wise, and I hope that we can work through this. I want you to know right off the bat that I'm not calling you a ____(insert a word like scumbag here). Please let me let everything out first because I really want you to know how I'm feeling. It would be best if you didnt interupt me so that I can get everything out, then we can discuss. This is how I'm feeling____"

I was taught in elementary school to use "I, Me" sentences.

Start off each sentences saying "I feel that__" yadda yadda. What it does is that it lessens any sort of attack on the other person. You can start saying that "when I pleasure you completely, and we don't have sex, I feel like you don't care about my body." (may or may not be true, I dont know what you're thinking)

or like... "I feel like when we have intercourse and there isn't one sided forplay (or only play) I feel much closer and more loved by you."

Say things like..."I really appreciate you doing things *down there* for me, but I would rather you go down there and want to do it, rather than feeling like you're being forced because it makes me happy. Maybe we can compromise. This is why I love sex with you a lot more"

3. DO NOT be afraid to say "let me finish please, it'll help me get all of my emotions out at once if you don't interupt, sweetie" when he starts interrupting you as you're speaking. I'm sure he would do the same to you.

Start talking about everything when you're done expressing all of your emotions. Keep telling him "i know you like to interrupt me, but please, let me speak first and then we can talk about it like civilized human beings." you can also add...'when you interrupt me and we get into arguments, it makes me so upset with you, and I dont want to be upset with you!"

basically what I'm saying is...prepare him in the beginning, don't be harsh or attack him like "you are so ridiculous when all you want is a blow job from ME! I HATE it when i have to do that, you make me feel so guilty when I dont!" Avoid those sentences

good luck.

wow I spent a long time on this....hahha I hope you understand what I'm saying

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Thanks so much.

I know that no matter how I say it, he's going to be offended by it ~ b/c we were really good friends before we started dating & any time there is an issue like this he gets incredibly worried that I regret getting together with him, which isn't the case at all.

It also has never come to a point where there is only 1sided-ness, because I've simply never done it "all the way" (haha) and it isnt a matter of him wanting me to blow him & then him not reciprocating ... b/c he definitely would ~ its just a matter of me not liking it & him wanting me to do it & me trying to figure out how to explain that it really isnt just me being difficult or whatever ~ I just ... don't want his dick in my mouth for an extended period of time, haha.