Closing the Facebook
I deactivated my Facebook account today. I found that I was spending way too much time on there trying to get other people to care about things that I was doing - to little effect. I shouldn't invest my time in trying to fulfill the whims of other people. I should be trying to build my life on my own and doing things for myself. I felt like I didn't have any close friends to talk to - just hundreds of acquaintances. What's the point of that? So, upon recommendation from another friend who also just deactivated her account, I went for it. I decided I'd try it out for at least two weeks and see what happens. If people need to get ahold of me, they best remember how we did things in the 90s!
I feel totally relieved. I love the feeling of going on my computer and not feeling obligated to have to check the latest news feed. It was getting rather dull anyway. The only updates I could see were from mostly people that I didn't care about or from people that I didn't care about but about them doing things that I didn't care about.
I miss the way things were in high school socially. I miss IMing people - but that has since been replaced with texting which is a far superior and more intimate way of IMing because it is usually between someone who actually wants to talk to you and not between you and someone who is just sitting aimlessly at their computer because they are bored. I miss calling up people to get an event together. Heck, I miss just sending simple e-mails to people.
I'm hoping that this will actually improve my levels of communications - forcing me to interact directly rather than indirectly. At first, I thought I couldn't get rid of Facebook because I needed it as a networking tool. It IS very helpful in that regard, but I feel like I've made enough contacts for now where I can go out of my way to do a better job of contacting people on my own instead of posting vague messages on Facebook. If I want to actually network, I should build my own website and then take the time to send people personal e-mails. Or I could even use forums since there are plenty of people using those. I was in a few Facebook groups that could maybe have helped me with networking...but I noticed that other people just kept posting stuff about themselves and it became annoying. At this point, I don't feel like I'll ever reactivate my account. Time to start focusing on myself again for awhile.
I feel totally relieved. I love the feeling of going on my computer and not feeling obligated to have to check the latest news feed. It was getting rather dull anyway. The only updates I could see were from mostly people that I didn't care about or from people that I didn't care about but about them doing things that I didn't care about.
I miss the way things were in high school socially. I miss IMing people - but that has since been replaced with texting which is a far superior and more intimate way of IMing because it is usually between someone who actually wants to talk to you and not between you and someone who is just sitting aimlessly at their computer because they are bored. I miss calling up people to get an event together. Heck, I miss just sending simple e-mails to people.
I'm hoping that this will actually improve my levels of communications - forcing me to interact directly rather than indirectly. At first, I thought I couldn't get rid of Facebook because I needed it as a networking tool. It IS very helpful in that regard, but I feel like I've made enough contacts for now where I can go out of my way to do a better job of contacting people on my own instead of posting vague messages on Facebook. If I want to actually network, I should build my own website and then take the time to send people personal e-mails. Or I could even use forums since there are plenty of people using those. I was in a few Facebook groups that could maybe have helped me with networking...but I noticed that other people just kept posting stuff about themselves and it became annoying. At this point, I don't feel like I'll ever reactivate my account. Time to start focusing on myself again for awhile.