Family inclusion in a secular wedding

[voodoodaddy41]

I’m 40 and I am about to get married for the second time. I would love to have a purely secular wedding this time (ie. No prayers or other hocus pockus.). I feel very strongly that religion is neither correct nor particularly moral (have you read the bible? It is not fit for kids to read!).  Because of past family dynamics, I think I am

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[ne_jyam]

Hey there! I just got married last April. I think this is a great day and age to be getting married in, because essentially anything goes. Weddings these days are all about personalizing the whole shindig to the couples' personalities and lifestyles.

It's totally possible to have a completely secular ceremony, we did! There are tons of non-denominational officiants out there. If you're worried about catching flack about it from family, just don't tell anyone ahead of time who would object. By the time they realize that there is nothing religious about the ceremony, it's too late to change anything because the ceremony is over and done with, and you've gotten the ceremony you want. There is no reason why these people's religious beliefs should dictate your ceremony.

You can definitely have your dad be your best man if that's what you want. My husband's dad stood up with him.

Check out weddingplans, the folks there are super creative and resourceful if you need ideas. Also check out www.offbeatbride.com, for instance this article:

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