amor vincit omnia!

[aethyrflux]

i am reposting this, since i don't think it appeared in anyone's journals, the last time i tried to post it -- and even if it did, it certainly bears repeating:

(re: fulguritus's public service announcement):

jealousy, envy, anger, sadness, fear & low self-esteem got you down?

compersion to the rescue!

or, perhaps you would prefer the term, "frubbly...

Comments

You just want me to have to think....(:

[buddhalotus]

Can't think of anything now....man I'm really going to have to think about that for awhile......to be continued.

Re: You just want me to have to think....(:

[buddhalotus]

So....I don't necasarily think that compersion has to be inevitable....which is what the link you posted to says last. I have felt this way for others many times, except for when I feel it is being forced on me. And because I may be having moments of jealousy I can't explain....but having a caring primary is very important. The link you posted to says being with your partner through jealousy is important.
Bongo bit Dave last night for petting Jax and everyone keeps saying it's because Bongo is insecure. (shrugs)

Re: You just want me to have to think....(:

[aethyrflux]

bongo is definitely insecure... it's that napoleon complex he has... trying to compensate for being a miniature collie!

actually, the quote you referred to is (my italicized emphasis):

"...We know we live in a harshly moralistic society which serves to deny creativity, love and pleasure at every turn. The very fact of being willing and daring to explore another person's sexual responses, ideas, desires, feelings and realities is a challenge to this morality and control. To do so outside the bounds of a one-on-one relationship is even more daring, but, it seems, for many people, to be an inevitability."

and for what it's worth, i do care for you deeply... as much as i am able.

i'm sorry to hear that you feel like anyone tried to force anything on you, ever... you know how i feel about that, though: relationships should be safe, sane, and consensual -- based on honesty, openness, and responsibility. given those conditions, you must be accountable for your choice of whether or not to participate in any relationship. yes, it is

Re: You just want me to have to think....(:

[aethyrflux]

as i said to fulguritus...

it's funny how some people think "compersion" is too technical/formal/cludgy/artificial/ugly/without etymological roots

and other people think "frubbly" is too flippant/frivolous/fluffy

http://www.livejournal.com/community/polyamory/1054627.html?thread=13917091#t13917091\
http://www.livejournal.com/community/polyamory/1031043.html
http://www.livejournal.com/community/polyamory/410675.html

Re: You just want me to have to think....(:

[hanzatsu]

I just gotta say that I like compersion as a word because when I think it in my head I hear a cat's purr in the middle and I think that's a good feeling to go along with the word... *image in head of me purring and rubbing my head against a loved one while feeling compurrrrsion* LOL..

Re: You just want me to have to think....(:

[aethyrflux]

ok, that settles it.
imho, there's no more debate on this issue.
your image has given voice (onomatopoeia, to be precise) to the coup de grace!

The sound of a word affects me a lot sometimes.

[hanzatsu]

:) Glad to give some onomatopoeia image.

ascii synaesthesia

[aethyrflux]

and now, complete with cartoon fuzzy lettering... (see below)