Congrats first of all on your upcoming wedding : )
I can't relate to the military thing at all, but I am your age and married and we are currently separated because of all the DRAMA getting the best of us!
If you really love him and are sure you want to be with him, don't let the mother thing freak you out 24/7 cause it will detract from your marriage.
When I got married, we lived with his mom. When we were engaged, his father had recently passed away and she insisted that we live with her for about 2 years so that she didn't have to live alone and to help with money....and she also thought my husband was incapable of supporting us while I was in school and that he was still a baby. I really didn't want to, but I wanted to be there for him and not argue since his dad had died. BIG mistake.. she was full of drama, overly nice to me but then in my business and talking about me behind my back and wanting to control all of our finances.. they were constantly arguing about money and dragging me into it.. and on top of it his family thought I wasn't nice to her cause I didn't wanna be her BFF and go out to lunch with her all the time. I really tried to be nice a few times and it would always backfire cause then she'd try to prolong us living there cause she'd think it was all cool and she'd try to pry more into our business after. x_x I was miserable all the time.. and then when my husband had money trouble and job trouble he didn't want to tell me because he thought I'd flip out, and things just deteriorated. We've been separated a few months and even got divorce papers going, but luckily we are talking again, so who knows. I'm hoping and praying we get through this cause I love him and he's my best friend, but there's been all sorts of drama since we've been separated. D: ugh. Ok but this is your post, so I will shut up about my issues xD
But the point if this is basically, don't let the drama get to you to the point of where it damages the relationship. Maybe some distance from her would do good. Maybe she is prejudiced against divorced people, or just upset about losing her son. You never know, she could be like this to any girl trying to marry him. *shrug* But do what is best for you and your child regardless of other people's issues. Maybe over time she will warm up to you. Just do your best to be polite and not give her a reason to complain about you, and also don't dwell on it 24/7 cause it's a major attitude killer, trust me. I hope it all works out : )
Actually, you mentioned the therapist thing.. some couples counseling or even individual counseling for you might be a really good idea for you guys. It would be regardless of the situation as everyone has their issues when starting a life together. The counselor might have good ideas as to how to approach her and help you through your own cold feet.
:D Thank you. I wish things would have been a bit smoother for you and your husband but I am glad you guys are talking again. Divorce is not a great thing.
I can't relate to the military thing at all, but I am your age and married and we are currently separated because of all the DRAMA getting the best of us!
If you really love him and are sure you want to be with him, don't let the mother thing freak you out 24/7 cause it will detract from your marriage.
When I got married, we lived with his mom. When we were engaged, his father had recently passed away and she insisted that we live with her for about 2 years so that she didn't have to live alone and to help with money....and she also thought my husband was incapable of supporting us while I was in school and that he was still a baby. I really didn't want to, but I wanted to be there for him and not argue since his dad had died. BIG mistake.. she was full of drama, overly nice to me but then in my business and talking about me behind my back and wanting to control all of our finances.. they were constantly arguing about money and dragging me into it.. and on top of it his family thought I wasn't nice to her cause I didn't wanna be her BFF and go out to lunch with her all the time. I really tried to be nice a few times and it would always backfire cause then she'd try to prolong us living there cause she'd think it was all cool and she'd try to pry more into our business after. x_x I was miserable all the time.. and then when my husband had money trouble and job trouble he didn't want to tell me because he thought I'd flip out, and things just deteriorated. We've been separated a few months and even got divorce papers going, but luckily we are talking again, so who knows. I'm hoping and praying we get through this cause I love him and he's my best friend, but there's been all sorts of drama since we've been separated. D: ugh. Ok but this is your post, so I will shut up about my issues xD
But the point if this is basically, don't let the drama get to you to the point of where it damages the relationship. Maybe some distance from her would do good. Maybe she is prejudiced against divorced people, or just upset about losing her son. You never know, she could be like this to any girl trying to marry him. *shrug* But do what is best for you and your child regardless of other people's issues. Maybe over time she will warm up to you. Just do your best to be polite and not give her a reason to complain about you, and also don't dwell on it 24/7 cause it's a major attitude killer, trust me. I hope it all works out : )
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