Your sister is 19 and as you know, she's still young and still learning about life. She's an adult, her own person and ultimately...she has to make mistakes and learn from them. Just keep in mind that you can't make her change or do anything differently. You can be supportive but other than that...there isn't a whole lot you can say or do.
On the other hand, she has been in an abusive relationship. Such relationships can wear away one's self-esteem to the point where they really can't make good decisions. They are often brainwashed into thinking they can't make it on their own, etc. and they end up in a bad cycle with the abuser. My mom has been there in the past and it takes a lot to leave a bad relationships sometimes.
If I were you...I'd call her or email her or get together for lunch sometime soon. Let her know you care about her, you're worried about her and you want the best for her. Don't bad-mouth the boyfriend. but let her know you're afraid for her and that she deserves better. Ask her what she truly wants in life, ask her if she needs help, let her know you'll be there for her.
I would also suggest that you suggest counseling. I think she's going to need it.
I hope this helps. Just love her and be supportive....
Your sister is 19 and as you know, she's still young and still learning about life. She's an adult, her own person and ultimately...she has to make mistakes and learn from them. Just keep in mind that you can't make her change or do anything differently. You can be supportive but other than that...there isn't a whole lot you can say or do.
On the other hand, she has been in an abusive relationship. Such relationships can wear away one's self-esteem to the point where they really can't make good decisions. They are often brainwashed into thinking they can't make it on their own, etc. and they end up in a bad cycle with the abuser. My mom has been there in the past and it takes a lot to leave a bad relationships sometimes.
If I were you...I'd call her or email her or get together for lunch sometime soon. Let her know you care about her, you're worried about her and you want the best for her. Don't bad-mouth the boyfriend. but let her know you're afraid for her and that she deserves better. Ask her what she truly wants in life, ask her if she needs help, let her know you'll be there for her.
I would also suggest that you suggest counseling. I think she's going to need it.
I hope this helps. Just love her and be supportive....
~Becky
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