harrassment
(for the record, I'm 21, bf is 24, psycho in the story is older than he is but idk her exact age...you get the idea)
A girl my bf used to hook up with ages and ages ago is like, totally obsessed with my boyfriend. She was calling and texting so often that he finally blocked her number last month. However, he discovered that blocking someone's # incurrs fees w/ Verizon, so today she became unblocked because he really can't afford the extra surcharge. She has called him now over 40 times (and is still calling even though it's past midnight) and has sent a BUNCH of text messages too. That is pretty typical for her. She calls and leaves voicemails until his mailbox is full. And then keeps calling. And texting. And ... yeah. She sent him a birthday present too last month, which I very politely requested he send back because she creeps the F outta me and I wouldn't want stuff she gave him around.
I have spoken to her by the way...sometime last month he suggested I answer the phone to try and get her to stop calling (like if she heard my voice she'd just leave us alone). It was beyond creepy. She admitted to being emotionally unstable (no kidding) and proceeded to beg me until she was in tears to put my BF on the phone. I refused and then told her to stop calling because it was very late and we needed to get some sleep (he doesn't live with me but he was staying the weekend). I had to just finally hang up on her. She then kept calling back for a couple more hours. The messages she leaves vary from her being strangely polite to sobbing to screaming and cussing. She's clearly a wackjob, I know.
Luckily for us, she lives up in the bay area of cali and we're down in so-cal, about a 1-hr plane ride or a really looooong drive away, so I doubt she's going to show up on my boyfriend's doorstep any time soon (god I hope not), but this is driving us both insane. Him especially of course...I mean this whole night she was calling, he was at work. :\
My boyfriend's already tried to get a restraining order but was told he can't because she hasn't threatened him or made him feel threatened and the fact that *I* feel threatened isn't enough since it's all directed towards him, not me. They said they can't issue a RO just because he's "being annoyed". I swear to god, if the situation were reversed and a woman was getting calls from a man 24/7, they would probably issue one. There is a real double standard with this sort of thing.
Can ANYONE think of something besides changing his # that he's had for years? I just don't know what to do...but she freaks me the hell out.
Okay, so she called a total of 200 times between yesterday and this afternoon (sunday 1/13) along with text messages. She started to make some threatening remarks about tracking me down and breaking us up as well as making trouble for Nick at his job so we got pretty freaked out. I did a little research on CA harrassment law and then I offered to go with him to report her for harrassment. We went down to the police station in Nick's town and filed a complaint. The officer got her on the phone and she admitted to what she did (didn't apologize, though) and promised to stop calling. We went ahead and filed the report though so if she contacts either one of us again it will be more actionable in the future. The cop took it pretty seriously, considering the fact that she continued to call and text WHILE we were at the police station until he called her up and talked to her. >.< I just hope she really does stop calling and that we don't have to press the issue any further.
A girl my bf used to hook up with ages and ages ago is like, totally obsessed with my boyfriend. She was calling and texting so often that he finally blocked her number last month. However, he discovered that blocking someone's # incurrs fees w/ Verizon, so today she became unblocked because he really can't afford the extra surcharge. She has called him now over 40 times (and is still calling even though it's past midnight) and has sent a BUNCH of text messages too. That is pretty typical for her. She calls and leaves voicemails until his mailbox is full. And then keeps calling. And texting. And ... yeah. She sent him a birthday present too last month, which I very politely requested he send back because she creeps the F outta me and I wouldn't want stuff she gave him around.
I have spoken to her by the way...sometime last month he suggested I answer the phone to try and get her to stop calling (like if she heard my voice she'd just leave us alone). It was beyond creepy. She admitted to being emotionally unstable (no kidding) and proceeded to beg me until she was in tears to put my BF on the phone. I refused and then told her to stop calling because it was very late and we needed to get some sleep (he doesn't live with me but he was staying the weekend). I had to just finally hang up on her. She then kept calling back for a couple more hours. The messages she leaves vary from her being strangely polite to sobbing to screaming and cussing. She's clearly a wackjob, I know.
Luckily for us, she lives up in the bay area of cali and we're down in so-cal, about a 1-hr plane ride or a really looooong drive away, so I doubt she's going to show up on my boyfriend's doorstep any time soon (god I hope not), but this is driving us both insane. Him especially of course...I mean this whole night she was calling, he was at work. :\
My boyfriend's already tried to get a restraining order but was told he can't because she hasn't threatened him or made him feel threatened and the fact that *I* feel threatened isn't enough since it's all directed towards him, not me. They said they can't issue a RO just because he's "being annoyed". I swear to god, if the situation were reversed and a woman was getting calls from a man 24/7, they would probably issue one. There is a real double standard with this sort of thing.
Can ANYONE think of something besides changing his # that he's had for years? I just don't know what to do...but she freaks me the hell out.
Okay, so she called a total of 200 times between yesterday and this afternoon (sunday 1/13) along with text messages. She started to make some threatening remarks about tracking me down and breaking us up as well as making trouble for Nick at his job so we got pretty freaked out. I did a little research on CA harrassment law and then I offered to go with him to report her for harrassment. We went down to the police station in Nick's town and filed a complaint. The officer got her on the phone and she admitted to what she did (didn't apologize, though) and promised to stop calling. We went ahead and filed the report though so if she contacts either one of us again it will be more actionable in the future. The cop took it pretty seriously, considering the fact that she continued to call and text WHILE we were at the police station until he called her up and talked to her. >.< I just hope she really does stop calling and that we don't have to press the issue any further.