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I thought I wrote this better in advice4teens, so I'm editing this, if that's okay.
Background:I’m 18, and I’m a girl. College Freshman ( Read more... )
Background:I’m 18, and I’m a girl. College Freshman ( Read more... )
It sounds like you need more time to heal, to get over the relationship. You cannot be friends if you still have the fresh emotions left over after a break-up. I don't mean you shouldn't/can't be friends until you lose all feelings for the guy but I think they are the issue now and could be for a couple months. Everyone needs the time to get over someone and everyone needs different amounts of time--some ppl need weeks, others take longer. You shouldn't block those emotions out when you want to communicate with him, they'll just eat away at you, instead, you need more time til the pain fades and then you might have an easier time talking to him.
You don't have to cut all ties but you shouldn't feel pressured to talk to him. Spend time with other friends, stay busy with hobbies and other activities. Don't spend time worrying about what the future might hold with this guy. You're 18 and have lots of time to figure that out when the moment hits. Say hello if you feel like it and say hello back if he waves or says hello to you. Ask him how he is but don't press for a detailed answer. Don't let things get personal. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do in this regard.
and don't put yourself down for making out in the nude. You're 18 for cripe's sake! What you did is pretty innocent compared to a lot of people. Its completely normal. Im sure your ex isn't really thinking about that when you guys talk and Im sure even he does, he'll think of it less and less, as will you, as time passes.
The best thing you can do is to learn from the relationship and to just be happy that it didn't end on a bad note but a note that was about maturity and age and time. Believe me, in the next few years you'll be changing a lot and maturing and pretty soon you might meet someone else who feels you and him are on the same page in life.
Good Luck!
~Becky
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