Im 25 and I'll be 26 in February. and wow...18 seems so...long ago. I've changed so much since then. but it's hard to put into words. I got through college, I moved out into my first apartment with my boyfriend of over 7 years, I now own 2 cats (thats a big responsibility) and I've traveled and done some other things I wouldn't have done at 18. I can also go to bars and all the clubs, which now doesn't seem like a major thing. I just have outgrown that part of my life.
Its different for everyone. You're going to be discovering a lot about yourself in the next few years. I feel more secure with who I am now and I have bigger and better goals in life.
Good Luck.
P.s. Just be yourself and don't try to change to be what your boyfriend may or may not want. Maybe he was just making an observation. Sometimes people grow apart, so don't hang on to something if it doesn't work anymore. Just saying...it might not even be on target but just keep it in mind.
Hi there : ) My husband and I are 3 years apart, but the age difference thing hasn't been much of a factor between us because of several different circumstances. We both had difficult times in our lives, but my parents did less for me than his did. Not in a bad way, but I was almost forced to be more responsible at a younger age. I'm the oldest in my family. He's the baby.. he went through a lot of personal problems and his dad was sick his whole life, but he always had his mom and sister to baby him so he was about the same maturity level as I was at 17 when he was 20. So, I'd be willing to bed that what is between you two is a difference in life experiences than actual age, so I agree with you on that
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OH boy, have I changed from 18. I'm 23 years old and I've been through military training, full time work on salary, failed college attempts, getting fired, getting academically suspended, getting married, getting divorced, getting married again, having a baby, getting deployed to Iraq, having to support my youngest sister who's 5 years younger than me, buying a house, buying 4 cars, financial success, financial failure, giving my dad thousands of dollars so he can stay afloat as he hops from hotel to hotel. You just never know what will happen to you in life and I feel much more in touch with my self and my identity. I was like _insanity_lost, I went through a lot of things up until 18, I was the oldest and I was way more mature than my ex husband who was 4 years older than me, had an easier life and was the baby. But he was more experienced than me in typical adult things, and my experiences made me develop into a person that had outgrown him
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Im 25 and I'll be 26 in February. and wow...18 seems so...long ago. I've changed so much since then. but it's hard to put into words. I got through college, I moved out into my first apartment with my boyfriend of over 7 years, I now own 2 cats (thats a big responsibility) and I've traveled and done some other things I wouldn't have done at 18. I can also go to bars and all the clubs, which now doesn't seem like a major thing. I just have outgrown that part of my life.
Its different for everyone. You're going to be discovering a lot about yourself in the next few years. I feel more secure with who I am now and I have bigger and better goals in life.
Good Luck.
P.s. Just be yourself and don't try to change to be what your boyfriend may or may not want. Maybe he was just making an observation. Sometimes people grow apart, so don't hang on to something if it doesn't work anymore. Just saying...it might not even be on target but just keep it in mind.
~Becky
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