Yes, I agree. I told him that I thought it would be good if we had some space from each other. Sometimes I feel like he suffocates me for my time. My flat is small, but he gets very annoyed or sulky if I want to do things separately from him. For example, we both work in the CBD, so we both leave home at the same time in the morning, drive to the station together, catch the same train. I get off at one station, he gets off at the next, we go to work all day, then catch the same train home together. Sometimes, I want to sit in a carriage without him, just for a change and he gets very annoyed when I suggest that. If I am going down to the shops to get dinner or go to the library, he insists that he has to come too, but then he will get annoyed if i take too long and he gets bored. I keep telling him that it's healthy to do things separately, however, he always takes it personally like i am purposely attacking him in some way. So I don't really know what that is all about. I mentioned to him tonight about finding his own place and asked him about any places he had seen that interested him. I just kept pushing it until he snapped and then we had a huge fight because he thinks i should back off. Another friend of mine suggested i just keep on about it, that perhaps if i nag him long enough he will be dying to get away! Thank you all for your advice. I thought it was just me and perhaps my expectations were too high or something, but now that most of you have said it's not healthy, I feel better knowing that.
If I am going down to the shops to get dinner or go to the library, he insists that he has to come too, but then he will get annoyed if i take too long and he gets bored. I keep telling him that it's healthy to do things separately, however, he always takes it personally like i am purposely attacking him in some way. So I don't really know what that is all about.
I mentioned to him tonight about finding his own place and asked him about any places he had seen that interested him. I just kept pushing it until he snapped and then we had a huge fight because he thinks i should back off.
Another friend of mine suggested i just keep on about it, that perhaps if i nag him long enough he will be dying to get away!
Thank you all for your advice. I thought it was just me and perhaps my expectations were too high or something, but now that most of you have said it's not healthy, I feel better knowing that.
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