Considerate, or Doormat.... YOU DECIDE!
Okay so last saturday I went over to play Magic with Jae's friends Sergio and Nigel. We had a good time, and Jae or his relationship was not discussed by either me or them. All we did was play cards and have fun.
So fast forward to later that night as I was about to go to bed. I get a text from Jae saying we need to talk. Who didn't see this coming?
I called him, and he asked me to not hang out with his friends in the interests of him needing space from me, and it bothers him that I'm doing this. He doesn't want to feel awkward with his friends knowing that I've hung out with them, and he doesn't want to wonder if he can hang out with his friends because I might be.
I initially protested and fought this. It didn't make sense to me, and we got into an...intense discussion. A lot of things were brought up and I got to vent a lot of my frustration, but in the end, I acquiesced.
So... I've lost Jae, I've lost friends made through him... All for him and his happiness. Never let it be said I'm not a giver. Unfortunately he still has some things of mine that I need to get back, so I'll have to see him one more time. After that, I think I'll just fade from them all and move on.
So fast forward to later that night as I was about to go to bed. I get a text from Jae saying we need to talk. Who didn't see this coming?
I called him, and he asked me to not hang out with his friends in the interests of him needing space from me, and it bothers him that I'm doing this. He doesn't want to feel awkward with his friends knowing that I've hung out with them, and he doesn't want to wonder if he can hang out with his friends because I might be.
I initially protested and fought this. It didn't make sense to me, and we got into an...intense discussion. A lot of things were brought up and I got to vent a lot of my frustration, but in the end, I acquiesced.
So... I've lost Jae, I've lost friends made through him... All for him and his happiness. Never let it be said I'm not a giver. Unfortunately he still has some things of mine that I need to get back, so I'll have to see him one more time. After that, I think I'll just fade from them all and move on.