Diary Entry: Happy New Year! (I came out to my grandmother)
Hey guys!
I'm back to Paris, I may or may not post about what I did for new year's (would anyone care? Let me know!).
I just wanted to post quickly about something.
I remembered while chatting with my grandma, my cousin (Lucifer, female) and my uncle about marriage and weddings and shit, that I'd never told my grandma I'm bi. She's my mom's mom. My other grand mother is another story, I think she's so old school that I've reheased and envisionned so many bad senarii that I am not sure new if I ever told her or not... I guess while I'm single now it's kinda moot, but...
Anyway, so I went I told my other grandma. I was pretty confident she wasn't going to throw me out of the house. She's modern and she rents houses to young people that go to college and that often come from other countries. She lives in a southern town where there is a know gay scene (mostly guys) and she sometimes joke about it, she knows a few personally and while she thinks they're odd (they're pretty flamboyants), she doesn't mind them. All of that to say that she's used to varried cultures and personalities.
However, embracing something on others and having it in your family... Way different. I lived that with my parents.
So I said something like "Hey, grams. What would you say if I ever got engaged to a woman?"
And that's what I love about my grandma. She is no bullshitter. She tells you what she thinks, right in your face, whether it's nice or not. (and she can be pretty harsh sometimes). Her response didn't miss a beat and I know she was honest. "I would be happy for you. I want you to be love and it would be a sign of it. Do you really think I care what gender you sleep with?" I guess I did.
Well, at least if I ever get married (laughable! Ha!), I'd have someone to invite.
I'm back to Paris, I may or may not post about what I did for new year's (would anyone care? Let me know!).
I just wanted to post quickly about something.
I remembered while chatting with my grandma, my cousin (Lucifer, female) and my uncle about marriage and weddings and shit, that I'd never told my grandma I'm bi. She's my mom's mom. My other grand mother is another story, I think she's so old school that I've reheased and envisionned so many bad senarii that I am not sure new if I ever told her or not... I guess while I'm single now it's kinda moot, but...
Anyway, so I went I told my other grandma. I was pretty confident she wasn't going to throw me out of the house. She's modern and she rents houses to young people that go to college and that often come from other countries. She lives in a southern town where there is a know gay scene (mostly guys) and she sometimes joke about it, she knows a few personally and while she thinks they're odd (they're pretty flamboyants), she doesn't mind them. All of that to say that she's used to varried cultures and personalities.
However, embracing something on others and having it in your family... Way different. I lived that with my parents.
So I said something like "Hey, grams. What would you say if I ever got engaged to a woman?"
And that's what I love about my grandma. She is no bullshitter. She tells you what she thinks, right in your face, whether it's nice or not. (and she can be pretty harsh sometimes). Her response didn't miss a beat and I know she was honest. "I would be happy for you. I want you to be love and it would be a sign of it. Do you really think I care what gender you sleep with?" I guess I did.
Well, at least if I ever get married (laughable! Ha!), I'd have someone to invite.