Emotions

[addycaissa]

Emotions are such a fucked up thing. I honestly don't know what to feel right now. For the last few days, my mind hasn't been able to keep still for more than a few minutes at a time, which is supremely annoying. More recently though its been settling on the negative. I suppose I should have seen this coming, and I was a fool if I ever thought I

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Stop it

[anonymous]

Adam, any girl who reads or hears this kind of thing is going to run a mile.
Instant "friend zone" material.
Just friendly advice.

Re: Stop it

[addycaissa]

Who is this? Please identify yourself!

Re: Stop it

[anonymous]

Stop sounding desperate to find a girlfriend, there's nothing less sexy, be a little bit of a cad.

Re: Stop it

[addycaissa]

I am a bit desperate, I can't help that.

Can you please tell me who this is? If you don't want to admit it on LJ, send me an email to addyboyishere@hotmail.com, or a PM on the forum or Bebo if you use those. I do want to know who this is though!

Re: Stop it

[anonymous]

No. I won't give up my identity.
And you'll do just fine if you just cut out this stuff about "needing" a girl. Don't beg, which is how what you're doing comes across to anyone who might read your livejournal posts.
You're intelligent, you're not ugly, just don't go all heavy on girls you like. Inject a little bit of "cad" into your approach (but not too much). A needy man is terribly unsexy. A needy man is "friend zone".

Re: Stop it

[addycaissa]

Hmm. Almost certain this is Vonnie, as I was at first, though obviously you don't have to answer that. I do rather wish you would though, I'm not going to judge you or anything, it's somewhat confusing, and even a little frustrating, not knowing who is trying to advise me.

This post was just a pure rant at at time when I desperately needed it, and nothing has really changed (surprise unsurprise, it's only been a couple of days, but still). I can't help the fact that the lonliness - which I've been posting about ever since I started this journal - has been increasing and is growing increasingly difficult/impossible to cope with. It's not a feeling I can help, and my LJ is a far better place to express it than anywhere else. In fact it's the only place I can express it.

I also cannot inject any "cad" into my approach its not who I am. And I refuse to pretend to be someone I'm not. Changing who I am, fair enough, but I'm not about to degrade myself by becoming a cad.

Re: Stop it

[anonymous]

It's not degrading yourself.
Just become a little more blase. You don't need to become a bastard, just a little harder.
If you have a girl you like, ignore her for a few days. Say you're "busy". Then call her. Then repeat. Don't chase after her like a puppy, there's nothing less sexy.
Fawning over her and calling eachother every day can wait.
You're going to be fine when you learn how these things work.

Re: Stop it

[addycaissa]

None of that is relevant without someone to be like that with however. It's gotten to the point where I just can't allow myself to like anyone because it always ends in me being ridiculously upset when nothing happens because nothing ever can happen - either they just don't like me like that, they're just out of a previous relationship, or something like that. So basically no, I'm not going to be fine. However emo that sounds, it's pretty much how it is.

With the one person I do kinda like, things are far more complicated than I could ever explain. Hell I barely understand it myself. But the crux of it is that nothing is/will happen so I'm still stuck at square one.

Re: Stop it

[anonymous]

Cut her out then. Don't get stuck in the friend zone. Be honest friends with her or be lovers. Don't compromise on "friends" because you think something will come of it in the future.
Get out there, stop treating women you like with kid gloves and you're going to be fine.

Re: Stop it

[addycaissa]

Without meaning to offend, you really aren't in any place to comment on that, not knowing anything about it or the people involved. And yes, I'm 99% certain about who this is. As I said it's a complicated situation, one which I haven't discussed because it isn't relevant to anyone, and is too difficult to explain anyway.

We are just going to be friends, that's because of a bloody annoying set of circumstances primarily, among other things.

It really isn't as simple as "getting out there" experience has told me that people just aren't interested! Two have been in recent memories, and both have been/will be good friends. Its probably for the best, but in one case in particular it's a little annoying. Incidentally in neither case does it have anything to do with them not liking me enough for more to happen, but other circumstances at the time. It's certainly got nothing to do with treating women I like with kid gloves, I plain and simple don't let myself like women because nothing happens. I don't know what, if anything, can change