PLEASE COMMENT... I NEED YOUR ADVICE!!!
Brian (drunkensailor) came to visit me over Spring Break. It was his first time in Denver. We had a great time going to open mic comedy at the Squire, karaokeing with Keith (blackmet), watching funny TV shows, staying up all night every night, and more.
Unfortunately, while events happening between us were bringing us closer together than ever before, events between my sister and I were bringing us further apart. I wanted to take Brian to meet my sister, Rachel and my nephew, Desmond, and we had plans to drive out there after the snow melted a little. However, that same day I got an email from Rachel saying she would not allow me to bring Brian over to her house. She said she had "talked it over" with her boyfriend, Patrick, and that they did not want strangers in the house. Her email was insulting on so many levels both to me and to Brian, and things only got worse as more emails transpired between the two of us. She went on to say that she can't keep all my different Seattle friends straight, and that I always come over with a different guy, when in fact I have only ever brought Dru and Chris over. Even after I explained to her that I've known Brian for 5 years the answer was still no. In her emails, she basically accused me of meeting random guys on the internet and having them fly to Denver to fuck me. She even went so far as to say she didn't want these people to know where she lived and that I needed to "keep my adult personal life separate from my relationship with Desmond." Her attitude is that of a homophobic person who mistakenly thinks someone in their family is gay. I can't understand what is wrong or unusual about people wanting to meet my new nephew, nor can I believe she thinks I would subject myself and my family to danger by picking up guys off the internet and bringing them straight to her house. Even if I did hook up with people casually online, which I don't, why would they want to meet my family? Why would I want them to? She acts as if my stopping by is some big issue to be discussed, as if I'm an ex-con whose friends are all violent offenders. A new baby is a big deal, and as much as I talk about him and show off his pictures, it's only natural that my friends would want to meet him.
Even knowing that I met Chris when I lived in Seattle, and that I've known Brian even longer than that, she either can't or won't drop this charade of talking about my friends like they are sinister creeps, and that I've only just met them. I'm not sure if this has more to do with the fact that Patrick doesn't like me and has always treated me like I'm imposing on their family, or if my sister really is that delusional, but it's probably best to have some solid evidence before making such harsh allegations. Treating a family member like having their friends over would be exposing your child to some form of sick depravity is just cruel. I love my nephew and I want to have a relationship with him, but I'm not sure if it's worth the emotional abuse.
Any advice?
Unfortunately, while events happening between us were bringing us closer together than ever before, events between my sister and I were bringing us further apart. I wanted to take Brian to meet my sister, Rachel and my nephew, Desmond, and we had plans to drive out there after the snow melted a little. However, that same day I got an email from Rachel saying she would not allow me to bring Brian over to her house. She said she had "talked it over" with her boyfriend, Patrick, and that they did not want strangers in the house. Her email was insulting on so many levels both to me and to Brian, and things only got worse as more emails transpired between the two of us. She went on to say that she can't keep all my different Seattle friends straight, and that I always come over with a different guy, when in fact I have only ever brought Dru and Chris over. Even after I explained to her that I've known Brian for 5 years the answer was still no. In her emails, she basically accused me of meeting random guys on the internet and having them fly to Denver to fuck me. She even went so far as to say she didn't want these people to know where she lived and that I needed to "keep my adult personal life separate from my relationship with Desmond." Her attitude is that of a homophobic person who mistakenly thinks someone in their family is gay. I can't understand what is wrong or unusual about people wanting to meet my new nephew, nor can I believe she thinks I would subject myself and my family to danger by picking up guys off the internet and bringing them straight to her house. Even if I did hook up with people casually online, which I don't, why would they want to meet my family? Why would I want them to? She acts as if my stopping by is some big issue to be discussed, as if I'm an ex-con whose friends are all violent offenders. A new baby is a big deal, and as much as I talk about him and show off his pictures, it's only natural that my friends would want to meet him.
Even knowing that I met Chris when I lived in Seattle, and that I've known Brian even longer than that, she either can't or won't drop this charade of talking about my friends like they are sinister creeps, and that I've only just met them. I'm not sure if this has more to do with the fact that Patrick doesn't like me and has always treated me like I'm imposing on their family, or if my sister really is that delusional, but it's probably best to have some solid evidence before making such harsh allegations. Treating a family member like having their friends over would be exposing your child to some form of sick depravity is just cruel. I love my nephew and I want to have a relationship with him, but I'm not sure if it's worth the emotional abuse.
Any advice?