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Jan 29, 2014 05:58

One thing i often ponder is sex. What is so sacred about it? Why do we restrict ourselves? Someone who has had sex with 20+ people is a whore. Why?! If it was all safe... What is the difference in me having sex with 1 person 400 times compared to 20 people 20x. I find it very hard to understand the majoritys opinion. Help me ( Read more... )

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layra January 29 2014, 23:07:04 UTC
If a man has sex with 20+ people he's a player and it's accepted. We all know that's not the case with females...

I don't understand the viewpoint either.

That whole "well, if you have a key that opens every lock, you've got a great key. But if you have a lock that every key could open...not a very good lock" phrase bugs me. I wish I had a rebuttal. But I don't and it irks me.

I could care less what other people do with their bodies as long as no one gets hurt.

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nippyfrog January 30 2014, 03:17:58 UTC
You could say, "What makes you think I'm the lock in this situation?"

That saying is sort of sexist. There's a clear lock analogy being the vagina and the key being the dick.

Anyway... I don't see value in people based on how many (or few) they have slept with.

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ablessingfound January 30 2014, 03:40:19 UTC
I dont think its sexist. It makes sense.

My thought isnt really about keeping stock in numbers. More of ... Hmm ... Why do we make it so personal and reserved for relationships. Im finding it very hard to articulate what im thinking.

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radio__america January 30 2014, 04:51:17 UTC
It's entirely sexist in that the 'key' is way more valuable than the 'lock' since the key can just fuck anything and still be valued, but the lock is devalued after one unlocking.

Anyway, I think everyone should bang whoever they want, however many times they want. I wish the others weren't so judgmental about other people's sex lives. It's not anyone's biz really except for the people involved, so if they aren't inviting you to know more about it - why do you care, you know? I couldn't care less about how many people a person has slept with.

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ablessingfound January 30 2014, 09:32:45 UTC
Oops. I was just going off of key=dick lock=vagina. Not thinking of the double standard. Besides, you can always relock it ;)

Curious, if you think people should bang, would you be upset if jimmy did? And whats the reasoning for whatever you answer? Dont be sorry for not divulging if you dont want to

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nippyfrog January 30 2014, 15:47:05 UTC
You already know she would be upset if Jimmy broke the agreement they clearly have right now. How many people Jimmy banged before their agreement has nothing to do with them now is what she's saying.

I think when you are asking questions like this- it's like asking someone about their sexual preference.
"Yeah but, WHY do you like the SAME sex and not the OPPOSITE sex?"

Because. It's their preference.

Why don't I like coconut? Because I dislike the flavor.
Why does one believe in God? Or saying why don't you believe in God?
Because you do, or you don't. It's how you feel.

Some people like coconut. Some people don't like coconut.

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ablessingfound January 30 2014, 20:49:31 UTC
No, i didnt know. Im not curious about how people feel about the number their partner has slept with before being together. I am wondering what thought makes people say sex is reserved for a serious relationship. And why is monogamy their preferance. Yes cheating is bad. Obviously no one wants to get lied to. But if your thought is sex is good and you and your partner agree, whats the harm in having sex with someone you arent in the relationship with? Does it make you feel not loved or?

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nippyfrog January 30 2014, 23:45:35 UTC
How would you not know that? You know very well Alana is monogamous and has never expressed even slight interest in anything other than than every time this has come up ( ... )

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nippyfrog January 31 2014, 05:17:29 UTC
I don't think it makes someone a "better person" either way, either, as Annette brought up ( ... )

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radio__america January 31 2014, 07:11:37 UTC
I don't really get the idea of sex being reserved for a serious relationship. For me, I didn't have a lot of interest in sleeping with people. That's just how I was. In no way was I 'saving' anything for a serious relationship. Things happened with me well before that point, and I was totally fine with it. Others have more of an interest, and shouldn't be shamed for choosing what's right for them ( ... )

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radio__america January 30 2014, 16:32:16 UTC
I wouldn't be upset if that were how our relationship were, as it stands he doing that would be dishonest and not very nice to me. We are generally uninterested in other people, so being monogamous is simple and works for us, and is what we want out of a relationship. How many people JL slept with prior to being with me doesn't make any difference, I don't really understand why people get so bent out of shape over a person's 'number'.

What I mean is I don't care how many people anybody has slept with, or is sleeping with, or isn't sleeping with, or anything regarding that. I think that slut shaming is wrong, and judging anyone for their preference is also wrong. The only time I'm taking issue with a person's sex life is when it's unsafe/hurting others, which I think is pretty fair.

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nippyfrog January 30 2014, 15:31:38 UTC
You can think that, but there is a very clear double standard articulated with that saying.

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