Its been my opinion that religous people often leave their kids in a wasteland of ignorance that eventually causes their demise in many ways. Especially concerningt he issue of sex
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Sin is sin? No? I mean wasn't it Eve who just had to eat the fruit because her father was too vague about what it really held. I mean she HAD to expirement because there was this knowledge that she must have even though her father told her NOT FOR YOU!
My point being. Sin is sin. If a parent explains biblically the reason not to say have pre-martial sex, but isn't willing to openly talk about oral sex, does that excuse the child (young adult) from being responsible for staying chaste?
Now on the practical side. I do agree that if parents were more active in their children's lives and were there to help guide them on issues instead of just ignoring the issue hoping it will go away that everyone would be better off.
I believe all sin is objectively the fault of the speicific sinner. But I also think that in areas of sex and anatomy that they level of sin would go down as more and more light is shed on the subject by wise and righteous people instead of only the dark side being witlling to be open about it.
By all means...if someone is going to teach about good and righteous behaviour in the area of sex and anatomy it ought to be parents and the church.
I was just listening to Mark Gorman this morning. I agree with you and with him that parents should be the ones talking to their children. He also says girls should learn from their mothers and boys should learn from their fathers. Start the education early, telling them enough, but not too much and also to let them know that you're there to answer any question and won't get mad at them no matter what they ask, even if it's disgusting
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I also watched the church handle the issue of sexuality. Sometimes it's hard because it's not really a topic you want to talk about from the pulpit, especially if there are kids in the church.
I can totally agree with this. In our church we the whole family is there, there is no Sunday school or children't church so what is being preached is being preached to all age groups. A few things were spoken of at our church that my parents (as well as I) felt was not suitable for young ears.
besides, since when do we think that ministers are experts in everything? do we go to them for marital counseling when they have no training in that? Do we go to them with counseling our kids when they have behavioral problems just because we think that because they know the Bible they know how to handle problems? Sometimes we do, but should we? and I'm saying this as a minister..
I dont so much look for anyone to be an expert...I just want openness and knowledge spread. The ability for people to ask questions...if not in their own homes..then somewhere else safe.
I place the responsability on the parent...but much like in all things...some oversight would be good.
I've considered this same subject lately, and decided it would be great to raise my children, God willing, in the presence of farm animals. These seem like the perfect mechanism to teach children openly about God's purposes for anatomy and reproduction in a way that doesn't "glamorize bodies, sexuality, and sex" as you put it.
you're awesome. that's such a great idea, at least, I think so. It's just that there are so many people out there that would flip out at the thought of even allowing their children to see what comes natural to animals.
Another sex mistake...faithbookqueenJuly 22 2005, 01:24:19 UTC
Christian parents make is to give the impression to young women that it is something to "put up with" in a marriage....that it is a "duty" or a "chore" ....somehow not as wonderful and exciting for Christians as for others. Hogwash! I am one of the fortunate ones who saw her VERY commited Christian parents being openly affectionate with eachother; who's mother said "Sex is God's wedding present to you! It's wonderful! And even more wonderful when it's within God's bounds." She didn't lie and tell me it was "bad" or "dirty" (God says the marriage bed is honorable!!) nor did she refuse to talk about it with me. My father also spent much of my teens years educating me in the way boys/men think....how they are generally much more visual than women and how I could be misread by certain things I had a habiy of doing rather innocently...etc
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Aarondarling I think you've touched on a very important topic of consideration in every Christians parents life. One that unfortunately is not taught to most Christian youth.
I attempt to be open when talking with my two boys about sex, love, and such. I believe I am the exception instead of the norm in the Christian community. The reality of the fact these days is that we must arm our children not only with the morals given by the Bible and the ones we adopt ourselves, but also with knowledge.
I do not believe it is a teachers responsibility to talk about sex with my children it's mine as a Father. Much like I teach my sons in other aspects of their life we must teach them in this area too. Without knowledge they are easily swallowed up by the world and all the images and things that assault us every day.
I tow the Biblical line on sex, but there is also a stark reality that many Christian young people will engage in behavior that is contrary to their teaching.
I agree that we need to be knowledgeable. I also agree that we need to stand guard against sexual impurity. I think the best defense in this area is a good offense. We need to make it so that our children have enough real info and true info so they are not deceived by all the worldliness.
I applaud you for speaking with your children about things. I wish that all parents would speak openly with their children about all things. I think in general it would curb many of the sins we see in the churches youth.
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My point being. Sin is sin. If a parent explains biblically the reason not to say have pre-martial sex, but isn't willing to openly talk about oral sex, does that excuse the child (young adult) from being responsible for staying chaste?
Now on the practical side. I do agree that if parents were more active in their children's lives and were there to help guide them on issues instead of just ignoring the issue hoping it will go away that everyone would be better off.
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By all means...if someone is going to teach about good and righteous behaviour in the area of sex and anatomy it ought to be parents and the church.
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I can totally agree with this. In our church we the whole family is there, there is no Sunday school or children't church so what is being preached is being preached to all age groups. A few things were spoken of at our church that my parents (as well as I) felt was not suitable for young ears.
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I place the responsability on the parent...but much like in all things...some oversight would be good.
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Great post.
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~Jaclynn
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I attempt to be open when talking with my two boys about sex, love, and such. I believe I am the exception instead of the norm in the Christian community. The reality of the fact these days is that we must arm our children not only with the morals given by the Bible and the ones we adopt ourselves, but also with knowledge.
I do not believe it is a teachers responsibility to talk about sex with my children it's mine as a Father. Much like I teach my sons in other aspects of their life we must teach them in this area too. Without knowledge they are easily swallowed up by the world and all the images and things that assault us every day.
I tow the Biblical line on sex, but there is also a stark reality that many Christian young people will engage in behavior that is contrary to their teaching.
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I applaud you for speaking with your children about things. I wish that all parents would speak openly with their children about all things. I think in general it would curb many of the sins we see in the churches youth.
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