Letter from Deborah after sharing reading from Linda
Hi Brandy,
I will try and be quick as I am very busy here at work. Thank you for sharing what the reading with you and Linda. I do agree to the fact that you and Robert have lived separate lives. This worked, but I feel it should now change with Bo in the picture. You and Bo should always come first, friends and games a back seat. I understand his childhood and how that can affect a person, but he is grown up now and can decide to change.
I have never felt an abusive control attitude projecting from Robert, however, he does show some signs of being selfcentered in his games first, wife and child second. One thing to keep in mind, the Army does change a man. They are taught to be killers after all, and this could be what Linda is seeing as an intensifying control to the point of mental and physical abuse. Another thing, is Robert going into the Army as a way to better take care of his family or to play Army man, like Linda says. This you would have a better take on.
Also, Linda is right that it truly shouldn't come down to a question at all, go or stay, there should be the love there that it wouldn't ever be a question. But if it is, then look inside yourself as the why and what that is that is causing you to question.
And last but certainly not least, as experiencing being a single Mom who had to work 80 hours a week to make ends meet, I never really had a whole lot of extra time with my children, oh they were fed and very well cared for but I worked outside the home for 70-80 hours a week then was up till midnight or later to do chores such as cooking dinner for the boy, bathing them, putting them to bed, washing, cleaning and what not. Then up at 4 AM to start the whole thing over again. Over 51% of my income went to child care. And I know that Robert probably doesn't help you out with the chores, but he does some. So, just think on it.
Well, I better get to work. Hugs and Love
Deborah
I will try and be quick as I am very busy here at work. Thank you for sharing what the reading with you and Linda. I do agree to the fact that you and Robert have lived separate lives. This worked, but I feel it should now change with Bo in the picture. You and Bo should always come first, friends and games a back seat. I understand his childhood and how that can affect a person, but he is grown up now and can decide to change.
I have never felt an abusive control attitude projecting from Robert, however, he does show some signs of being selfcentered in his games first, wife and child second. One thing to keep in mind, the Army does change a man. They are taught to be killers after all, and this could be what Linda is seeing as an intensifying control to the point of mental and physical abuse. Another thing, is Robert going into the Army as a way to better take care of his family or to play Army man, like Linda says. This you would have a better take on.
Also, Linda is right that it truly shouldn't come down to a question at all, go or stay, there should be the love there that it wouldn't ever be a question. But if it is, then look inside yourself as the why and what that is that is causing you to question.
And last but certainly not least, as experiencing being a single Mom who had to work 80 hours a week to make ends meet, I never really had a whole lot of extra time with my children, oh they were fed and very well cared for but I worked outside the home for 70-80 hours a week then was up till midnight or later to do chores such as cooking dinner for the boy, bathing them, putting them to bed, washing, cleaning and what not. Then up at 4 AM to start the whole thing over again. Over 51% of my income went to child care. And I know that Robert probably doesn't help you out with the chores, but he does some. So, just think on it.
Well, I better get to work. Hugs and Love
Deborah