Cleanup Postponement and Grandma
So I didn't end up going to my mother's this past weekend, and this was at the request of my brother. My brother was the one who found my mother face down on the floor, and now every time he goes into my mother's home that same image of discovering my dead mother's body continues to haunt him. I don't even know what to suggest for him, but I kind of had the feeling this would be an issue, and he seemed to want to put off the clean-up. I can't blame him in the least, but I'm worried that this isn't just going to go away in a few weeks -- it's a demon he's going to continue to fight.
I'm still irked by the fact that my grandmother showed no emotion whatsoever at her own daughter's funeral. My grandmother's always been somewhat of a "hardass" -- hell, she nicknamed my childhood cat and dog "Ugly" and "Fatass" -- but at Mom's funeral?? No tears or anything?? After delivering a speech at my mother's wake, I went to her and said, in tears, that doing the speech just further cemented the realisation that Mom is dead. My grandmother's response? "You don't realise she's dead?? I can hit you in the head; maybe that'll help!!!"
... oy.
I'm still irked by the fact that my grandmother showed no emotion whatsoever at her own daughter's funeral. My grandmother's always been somewhat of a "hardass" -- hell, she nicknamed my childhood cat and dog "Ugly" and "Fatass" -- but at Mom's funeral?? No tears or anything?? After delivering a speech at my mother's wake, I went to her and said, in tears, that doing the speech just further cemented the realisation that Mom is dead. My grandmother's response? "You don't realise she's dead?? I can hit you in the head; maybe that'll help!!!"
... oy.