Women can be evil!
It's at times like this that im actually glad that im not in a relationship, and that i dont have children (altho id love 2 have some, someday).
My mate Kev - who i work with - is going thru a really tough time. Hes in 1 of these relationships whereby hes sort of stuck, powerless. The partner hes with is quite domineering, controlling and mainpulative. They have this love/hate relationship, and it isnt a particular strong relationship, but they stay 2gether because they have this lovely little 2 yr old boy called Josh. But Roweena (Kev's partner) constantly uses Josh as a tool to get what she wants, and it really pisses him off.
Example, today she threatned (and looks like shes doing more than threatning, looks like it is gonna/has happened) to take Josh away all because a) she wants to live back down south with her mum n dad (might i say not taking in2 account want Kev or Josh wants, totally selfish motives), and b) because Kev (on his working day) cudnt take Josh to nursery cos he was late for work, n Roweena who wasnt at work at all didnt want 2 do it. How petty is that?
I just feel so sorry for him because he is a great father, and yet hes completely powerless. Hes 1 of these few (well, i dont kno the statistics but im sure every1 reading this must kno of at least 1 person who doesnt hav a father figure in their life) ppl who actually cares about being involved in his son's life, yet the state allocates all resources, all power to the mothers (who, im sorry, just because they gave birth to those children shudnt automatically mean that they hav sole custody of that/those child/children) who dont always possess the mental stability or morals to be a parent. I think a law shud be introduced so that men can gain equal rights without having 2 marry, otherwise many mothers kno that they hav complete control and they hav their partner wrapped around their little finger (ohh btw, this isnt a woman/mother bashing thing, im just saying in this particular instance that it sucks being a dad, and im also aware that their r some excellent mothers out there, some who i kno) or at least kno how 2 use the system to their advantage. At least i think that when disputes like this happen it shud be done 'case by case' so that if the mother is trying 2 use their child as a tool, that it can be exploited, and custody divided equally. I kno the problem with the law i just said is that a) it has to be enforced (and thats somewhat difficult and problematic) and b) some fathers will abuse that law, but what about the ones that wont? what about the ones who genuingly want to be involved in their childs life?
It just strikes me as unbelievably selfish what Roweena is doing. If she doesnt care bout Kev or want to be involved with him, fair enuff (Kev said so himself, it wud hurt be he'd get over it), but how dare she use Josh as a weapon, so she can get what she wants. How can some1 who is spose to love their child so completely do this to them? She must be aware of how mal-adjusted her child will grow up without a strong father figure in his life (of course this isnt ALWAYS the case, but usually is), and even if she isnt, shes spose 2 be looking out for Josh's best interests (fair enuff, is Kev was a bad father, if he beat her or abused either of them i cud completely understand that, but he doesnt, so why shud he and his son hav 2 suffer?). By all accounts SHE's the whos a pyscho.
Ne way, had 2 get that out. It just annoys me how the system works. Wheres the incentive 2 be a father? and if u r, wheres the incentive 2 be a good 1 (ie staying involved in their childs life) if ur child can be taken from u as easy as that?!
Again, this is NOT having a go at woman or mothers in general, just those who do this sort of thing. I just feel bad for my friend.
hey ho
Ste xxx
My mate Kev - who i work with - is going thru a really tough time. Hes in 1 of these relationships whereby hes sort of stuck, powerless. The partner hes with is quite domineering, controlling and mainpulative. They have this love/hate relationship, and it isnt a particular strong relationship, but they stay 2gether because they have this lovely little 2 yr old boy called Josh. But Roweena (Kev's partner) constantly uses Josh as a tool to get what she wants, and it really pisses him off.
Example, today she threatned (and looks like shes doing more than threatning, looks like it is gonna/has happened) to take Josh away all because a) she wants to live back down south with her mum n dad (might i say not taking in2 account want Kev or Josh wants, totally selfish motives), and b) because Kev (on his working day) cudnt take Josh to nursery cos he was late for work, n Roweena who wasnt at work at all didnt want 2 do it. How petty is that?
I just feel so sorry for him because he is a great father, and yet hes completely powerless. Hes 1 of these few (well, i dont kno the statistics but im sure every1 reading this must kno of at least 1 person who doesnt hav a father figure in their life) ppl who actually cares about being involved in his son's life, yet the state allocates all resources, all power to the mothers (who, im sorry, just because they gave birth to those children shudnt automatically mean that they hav sole custody of that/those child/children) who dont always possess the mental stability or morals to be a parent. I think a law shud be introduced so that men can gain equal rights without having 2 marry, otherwise many mothers kno that they hav complete control and they hav their partner wrapped around their little finger (ohh btw, this isnt a woman/mother bashing thing, im just saying in this particular instance that it sucks being a dad, and im also aware that their r some excellent mothers out there, some who i kno) or at least kno how 2 use the system to their advantage. At least i think that when disputes like this happen it shud be done 'case by case' so that if the mother is trying 2 use their child as a tool, that it can be exploited, and custody divided equally. I kno the problem with the law i just said is that a) it has to be enforced (and thats somewhat difficult and problematic) and b) some fathers will abuse that law, but what about the ones that wont? what about the ones who genuingly want to be involved in their childs life?
It just strikes me as unbelievably selfish what Roweena is doing. If she doesnt care bout Kev or want to be involved with him, fair enuff (Kev said so himself, it wud hurt be he'd get over it), but how dare she use Josh as a weapon, so she can get what she wants. How can some1 who is spose to love their child so completely do this to them? She must be aware of how mal-adjusted her child will grow up without a strong father figure in his life (of course this isnt ALWAYS the case, but usually is), and even if she isnt, shes spose 2 be looking out for Josh's best interests (fair enuff, is Kev was a bad father, if he beat her or abused either of them i cud completely understand that, but he doesnt, so why shud he and his son hav 2 suffer?). By all accounts SHE's the whos a pyscho.
Ne way, had 2 get that out. It just annoys me how the system works. Wheres the incentive 2 be a father? and if u r, wheres the incentive 2 be a good 1 (ie staying involved in their childs life) if ur child can be taken from u as easy as that?!
Again, this is NOT having a go at woman or mothers in general, just those who do this sort of thing. I just feel bad for my friend.
hey ho
Ste xxx