Vent
I went to visit his sister yesterday and I'm still a little irked by it. I'm turned off by the fact that she expects her brother to take her side just because she's family. I understand where she's coming from, but she doesn't understand that he does. I explained it to her that he did take her side and that we got in a huge fight over it and he told me to apologize. I really felt like it went in one ear and out the other because she didn't seem to respond so much to it. She did say, however, that she didn't mean for that to happen.
That shocked me because if she didn't, then why would she tell him anyways? I understand that she wanted to get her side in before I told my side, but I don't understand why it mattered that much. Did we need Don's approval? I wasn't trying to get him to take my side or anything like that, I was just venting about an issue that I had with his sister.
Anyways -- it makes me wonder why she always asks if Don knows I'm there at her place. Half the time I don't tell him until afterwards because he doesn't need to know beforehand. I don't see why that matters anyways. It just bothers me that she tries to bring him in the middle of our issues and wants him to choose between us when I clearly keep him out of our issues and I try NOT to make him choose. I mean, I tell him what's up, but I don't have him pick a side or even state what he thinks. I just tell him to tell him what's going on with me.
What bothered me the most about this whole mess is that she wasn't even considerate about the state he was in. When she called him to tell him her side, he was sick and working at school. He was also stressed about school as always. The last thing he needed was to be caught in the middle of an issue between me and her. Did she even ask how he's doing? Did she even bother to find out anything about him? It just doesn't make any sense as to why she would do that other than to affect whatever is going on between Don and I.
My relationship with Don is completely separate from my relationship with her. She keeps trying to mesh them together. She keeps trying to make him see me the way she sees me. She kept saying he doesn't take her side or whatever and she's so hurt from it, but what exactly did she want him to do to show that he did take her side? That's what kills me -- did she expect him to stop talking to me? Or worse, to break up with me? She said she didn't want to affect my relationship with him, but she doesn't feel like he takes her side. So that's why I told her what happened and I still felt like she didn't feel like he took her side. It just makes me wonder what else she wanted him to do.
She also said that they're not talking. First of all, I really thought that she was mad at him so that's why they're not talking. I'm not trying to affect their relationship. Whatever goes on between them is between him and her. That's it. I know she wants to blame me, but she's the one who made him pick between us or whatever and she's the one who talked to him last. I didn't ever tell him not to talk to her or whatever. If she's not talking to him, I don't see why she would expect him to talk to her.
And honestly, how fair was she being to me. Whenever she had a problem, she'd freely tell Don and never tell me or confront me about anything. How fair is that? Is that not talking behind my back? Is that not making me look bad in front of Don? I understand they're brother and sister, but if I'm dating him, you best not talk about me to him. Because how fair is that? I wouldn't talk to Drew about Maribel if I had a problem with her. I'd bring it up to her. So even though that's her brother, she would still talk about me behind my back. So whatever. She can be upset all she wants, but she's acting like she's never done this before.
I just want to yell at her: HE'S NOT BREAKING UP WITH ME BECAUSE OF SOMETHING GOING ON BETWEEN YOU AND ME. GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD.
I know she said that she's our biggest supporter and she's always defending me to her family? or something like that, but honestly... if she's going to talk about me behind my back and make me look bad in front of Don... she's NOT supporting our relationship. She's NOT defending me in front of her family because he's part of her family, too.
I don't know how well she knows her brother, but he's not one to take sides just because we're going out or just because they're related. He's going to be a doctor, he has more ethics than that. He knows what's right and what's wrong. He sees things black and white. Yes, he yelled at her, but he yelled at me, too. Again, he's not going to do anything more to punish me because it's not between me and him. She just doesn't get that.
Ugh. Kids these days.
That shocked me because if she didn't, then why would she tell him anyways? I understand that she wanted to get her side in before I told my side, but I don't understand why it mattered that much. Did we need Don's approval? I wasn't trying to get him to take my side or anything like that, I was just venting about an issue that I had with his sister.
Anyways -- it makes me wonder why she always asks if Don knows I'm there at her place. Half the time I don't tell him until afterwards because he doesn't need to know beforehand. I don't see why that matters anyways. It just bothers me that she tries to bring him in the middle of our issues and wants him to choose between us when I clearly keep him out of our issues and I try NOT to make him choose. I mean, I tell him what's up, but I don't have him pick a side or even state what he thinks. I just tell him to tell him what's going on with me.
What bothered me the most about this whole mess is that she wasn't even considerate about the state he was in. When she called him to tell him her side, he was sick and working at school. He was also stressed about school as always. The last thing he needed was to be caught in the middle of an issue between me and her. Did she even ask how he's doing? Did she even bother to find out anything about him? It just doesn't make any sense as to why she would do that other than to affect whatever is going on between Don and I.
My relationship with Don is completely separate from my relationship with her. She keeps trying to mesh them together. She keeps trying to make him see me the way she sees me. She kept saying he doesn't take her side or whatever and she's so hurt from it, but what exactly did she want him to do to show that he did take her side? That's what kills me -- did she expect him to stop talking to me? Or worse, to break up with me? She said she didn't want to affect my relationship with him, but she doesn't feel like he takes her side. So that's why I told her what happened and I still felt like she didn't feel like he took her side. It just makes me wonder what else she wanted him to do.
She also said that they're not talking. First of all, I really thought that she was mad at him so that's why they're not talking. I'm not trying to affect their relationship. Whatever goes on between them is between him and her. That's it. I know she wants to blame me, but she's the one who made him pick between us or whatever and she's the one who talked to him last. I didn't ever tell him not to talk to her or whatever. If she's not talking to him, I don't see why she would expect him to talk to her.
And honestly, how fair was she being to me. Whenever she had a problem, she'd freely tell Don and never tell me or confront me about anything. How fair is that? Is that not talking behind my back? Is that not making me look bad in front of Don? I understand they're brother and sister, but if I'm dating him, you best not talk about me to him. Because how fair is that? I wouldn't talk to Drew about Maribel if I had a problem with her. I'd bring it up to her. So even though that's her brother, she would still talk about me behind my back. So whatever. She can be upset all she wants, but she's acting like she's never done this before.
I just want to yell at her: HE'S NOT BREAKING UP WITH ME BECAUSE OF SOMETHING GOING ON BETWEEN YOU AND ME. GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD.
I know she said that she's our biggest supporter and she's always defending me to her family? or something like that, but honestly... if she's going to talk about me behind my back and make me look bad in front of Don... she's NOT supporting our relationship. She's NOT defending me in front of her family because he's part of her family, too.
I don't know how well she knows her brother, but he's not one to take sides just because we're going out or just because they're related. He's going to be a doctor, he has more ethics than that. He knows what's right and what's wrong. He sees things black and white. Yes, he yelled at her, but he yelled at me, too. Again, he's not going to do anything more to punish me because it's not between me and him. She just doesn't get that.
Ugh. Kids these days.