Clear up the smoke.
Alright so after I went over to his house and got in a huge fight, I figured it was pointless... this is probably what she wanted, for us to fight over it. But I didn't want to fight with him over her. I just wanted to get an understanding and I wanted him to understand me. And we weren't understanding each other. We yelled so bad. He ran to the door and told me to leave. He pushed a chair down.
"I need you."
We talked more calmly. He picked up the chair he pushed and apologized. I apologized for calling him the worst best friend ever. He explained that he didn't say anything to her to put me down, if anything he defended me asking her, "What's up with what Jon told Nikki? There's no reason for Jon to make that up." I know he knows she's lying.
[[Note: I also told him how I was about to break up with him because I felt like he was double-teaming me with his sister. It would be pointless to stay with him if he thought his sister was right about me. If he's not going to have my back, he's not my partner. He doesn't have to say I'm right or defend me if I'm wrong, but he should NOT tell me I'm more wrong. I get it, I'm wrong. I'm frazzled. Help me the fuck out. I did wrong, I KNOW ALREADY -- as a best bud, you don't rub it in my face and make me feel worse for a mistake I already know I did... you help me figure out what to do now to make it better. That is what I mean by have my back -- don't make me feel worse, help me out. Honestly, do I have to write a "How to be a Best Bud" hand-book?!]]
He was mad because I yelled at him and I was being a hypocrite.
I was mad because I admitted the truth and took responsibility for it and she lied and did NOT take responsibility for it, nor did she handle it like a mature person should -- and he sided with her. That is why I was mad at him.
I feel like I went about it the way adults do -- I made an appointment to meet with her, I told her things in a way that wasn't attacking. I gave her a chance to explain and apologize even if needed.
She went about it like every drama queen I know -- she called me out through text, was furious that I told the truth, had to be the one with the last line and the upperhand. "I have nothing more to say to you. I won't tell my family so it doesn't affect your relationship with Dom." And then she goes and tells Dom. Are there not enough lies in the world for her to tell? And she got all offended from the things I had confronted her about... so she was so fake about the whole thing.
Yes, I did wrong. I had no business talking about her or whatever. Even if I was trying to protect someone I consider my own. I admit it. I even apologized. She's only mad because I told the truth and she knows she's in too deep to do that. I'm free now. I don't have to worry about being fake around her for the sake of Dom. It's all over and I'm honestly so glad.
It's in her hands now. Like a child, she'll probably hold this grudge as long as she can. But I know her, she's not happy inside. This is the one thing that she can have control over. If anything, I feel really bad for her because so many more people talk behind her back. I'm just the first to admit it. And what a hypocrite... Jaemi talked so much shit about her behind her back and she let her apologize? I guess her boyfriend's brother's fiance is more important than her own brother's girlfriend. That's cool.
I'm so done with that fake, superficial shit. She told me how she hates that her bf's so mean and talks so much people about shit, yet she still stays with him. Real nice.
It's just so hard to have any respect for 27 year old's who act like 12 year old's.
I also learned from someone else that she didn't like me from the beginning. She tried to make me feel left out and did what she could to spite me. She used to be so nice to one of Dom's girl friends in front of me, but someone told me it was out of spite. Honestly, the things I know about her...
I'm just glad it's all out there. I told Dom everything. I tried not to before because he's stressed enough from school, but this was too big to not let him know what was up. I told him how I've always felt like she was trying to break us up from the "advice" she used to give me and that's why I stopped talking to her about anything other than school or what's on her plate. There's so many more things, but it's not important now. I know I did wrong, but ultimately who handled all of it wrong? She did. I'd rather tell the truth than live with the weight of a lie. Now you tell me who's wrong.
I deserve a better friend. A real one.
"I need you."
We talked more calmly. He picked up the chair he pushed and apologized. I apologized for calling him the worst best friend ever. He explained that he didn't say anything to her to put me down, if anything he defended me asking her, "What's up with what Jon told Nikki? There's no reason for Jon to make that up." I know he knows she's lying.
[[Note: I also told him how I was about to break up with him because I felt like he was double-teaming me with his sister. It would be pointless to stay with him if he thought his sister was right about me. If he's not going to have my back, he's not my partner. He doesn't have to say I'm right or defend me if I'm wrong, but he should NOT tell me I'm more wrong. I get it, I'm wrong. I'm frazzled. Help me the fuck out. I did wrong, I KNOW ALREADY -- as a best bud, you don't rub it in my face and make me feel worse for a mistake I already know I did... you help me figure out what to do now to make it better. That is what I mean by have my back -- don't make me feel worse, help me out. Honestly, do I have to write a "How to be a Best Bud" hand-book?!]]
He was mad because I yelled at him and I was being a hypocrite.
I was mad because I admitted the truth and took responsibility for it and she lied and did NOT take responsibility for it, nor did she handle it like a mature person should -- and he sided with her. That is why I was mad at him.
I feel like I went about it the way adults do -- I made an appointment to meet with her, I told her things in a way that wasn't attacking. I gave her a chance to explain and apologize even if needed.
She went about it like every drama queen I know -- she called me out through text, was furious that I told the truth, had to be the one with the last line and the upperhand. "I have nothing more to say to you. I won't tell my family so it doesn't affect your relationship with Dom." And then she goes and tells Dom. Are there not enough lies in the world for her to tell? And she got all offended from the things I had confronted her about... so she was so fake about the whole thing.
Yes, I did wrong. I had no business talking about her or whatever. Even if I was trying to protect someone I consider my own. I admit it. I even apologized. She's only mad because I told the truth and she knows she's in too deep to do that. I'm free now. I don't have to worry about being fake around her for the sake of Dom. It's all over and I'm honestly so glad.
It's in her hands now. Like a child, she'll probably hold this grudge as long as she can. But I know her, she's not happy inside. This is the one thing that she can have control over. If anything, I feel really bad for her because so many more people talk behind her back. I'm just the first to admit it. And what a hypocrite... Jaemi talked so much shit about her behind her back and she let her apologize? I guess her boyfriend's brother's fiance is more important than her own brother's girlfriend. That's cool.
I'm so done with that fake, superficial shit. She told me how she hates that her bf's so mean and talks so much people about shit, yet she still stays with him. Real nice.
It's just so hard to have any respect for 27 year old's who act like 12 year old's.
I also learned from someone else that she didn't like me from the beginning. She tried to make me feel left out and did what she could to spite me. She used to be so nice to one of Dom's girl friends in front of me, but someone told me it was out of spite. Honestly, the things I know about her...
I'm just glad it's all out there. I told Dom everything. I tried not to before because he's stressed enough from school, but this was too big to not let him know what was up. I told him how I've always felt like she was trying to break us up from the "advice" she used to give me and that's why I stopped talking to her about anything other than school or what's on her plate. There's so many more things, but it's not important now. I know I did wrong, but ultimately who handled all of it wrong? She did. I'd rather tell the truth than live with the weight of a lie. Now you tell me who's wrong.
I deserve a better friend. A real one.