I should just rename my journal 'The bitches blog'

[_cinjudes_]

Tell me if I did the right thing.

About 2 years ago nightcomes (formerly lj user chokeanddie) at the icon community glassballerina (previously at _hellsbelles) kept running out of bandwidth on her posts. At the time she was posting alot of VM, SPN and BtVS art that I was enjoying. She's a good enough artist and one of those that posts like 100+ icons in a post. So I offered to

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[stars91]

I totally would have handled it the same way. How do you just "forget" who's bandwidth you're using??? I guess if you can't remember who any of your sources are for crediting purposes then how *could* you remember who is loaning you bandwidth??

Sorry you've had to deal with the suck-titude today!

:hugs:

[_cinjudes_]

I know. I just don't get it. At. ALL. She asks for credit in every post but yet she doesn't list anyone she uses. She even asks for credit for her screencaps - and does she ONLY make icons from pictures she caps? No.

Other than her totally unexpected shitty attitude and glaring immaturity, that is why I'm so mad. Not that she didn't credit me so much as that she doesn't credit anyone and that she simply forgot me. And THEN has the nerve to say I should comment more often. Truth is, we don't have alot in common except for SPN and a few older fandoms. But she is mostly all about One Tree Hill and Gossip Girl (both of which I hate) - so what am I supposed to comment on? How awesome being a teenager is? Sorry.

*hugs you back*

[houses7177]

Were I you, I would go delete her albums right now. This is beyond drama, this is just ugly. Cut her albums out and be done with it. I cannot believe the level of sheer rudeness and ... gah. I'm incensed on your behalf. What an ugly, ugly person.

[_cinjudes_]

I'm gonna start on it in the morning. I'm having a hard enough time keeping my eye from twitching as it is and holding myself back from responding to her anymore. The thing is - that's a MASSIVE community. With over 1000 members and I'm fixing to get dragged threw the mud. Looks like I might have to open this post up when/if that happens.

But it's going to be an undertaking. To delete an album it must be empty. That means you at least have to select all and delete the pics in each album. She literally has almost 100 sub-albums.

Sorry about your latest suckitude as well. I tried to respond earlier, but work started kicking my ass a bit.

*hugs you*

[houses7177]

Well, that sucks. Is there a way to change the address of her top album so her links no longer work as a first step? Nothing like ingratitude to get my feathers up.

[_cinjudes_]

Yes. That is brilliant! Of course, nothing like my name being mud starting right now instead of tomorrow morning. Give the kiddies something something to stew about.

Renaming album right now.

[lizterry]

Seriously, if I were you I would have deleted her shit out of the photobucket account the second I got cut. Regardless if she had it saved anywhere else. Thats her problem not yours. If she can't have the common decency to at least recognise the fact that you pay for her shit, then she's not worth it. At all.

[_cinjudes_]

Thanks and I'm working on it. Even as shitty as she was/is I still feel a bit mean doing it. I know I shouldn't but I do. But it has always bugged me that she doesn't credit anyone and demands credit for herself, not even so much me. Go look at my Resource post. As soon as I get pictures I edit that entry and I haven't even posted art in FOREVER. But yeah, I'm doing it. I just changed the album name so it's all forked so I'm sure her and her buds are plotting my death at my utter bitchy wrongness.

Thanks for your support. It really means alot - this shit has I fear is just getting started. This post will probably have to be unlocked just so people can see my side of the story at all. *hugs*

[mad_about_dan]

I really think you did the right thing!! Just as she deserved the credit for her arts you deserved credit for hosting all of the pictures, you probably didn't do it for the credit of course but you still deserved it, she didn't HAVE to do it but it is called being EDUCATED.

Don't worry, hun. YOu did the right thing *hugs*

[_cinjudes_]

Thank you. I just hate this drama shit (haha) but it's good to know that some people really 'get' the rules of LJ etiquette and are standing behind me.

Honestly though it was never about being credited for ME personally - although I have a huge problem with her not crediting anyone at all except who makes her layouts. For me it is about at least being mentally acknowledged. If you don't have anything to give someone else it is remembering who they are. She is still carrying 600+ friends on her flist. I'd be willing to be that only about 10 of those people (or LESS) have actually done something personally nice for her. Aside from paying for her personal lj and userpics - please tell me who is doing more for her? And she forgot who I was? Treated me like a problem? Well, yeah - the problem just got handled.

*hugs you*

[raloria]

You absolutely did the right thing. She's being immature (I see she's 17) for not crediting you in some form all this time. You were doing a huge favor for her and she forgot about you. Nice. Real nice.

Try not to worry about the problems this might cause. Dump her stuff and fast. She deserves nothing less. You were doing something nice, but her actions clearly show a lack of appreciation and respect for your kindness.

*hugs*

[_cinjudes_]

I renamed the main album which has screwed up the her whole community. I still feel bad, but I know I did the right thing. Over the next few days I will be deleting the stuff and I've unlocked this post now so I'm sure wankery is about to begin.

What loveliness I will walk into in the morning I am sure. Joy.

Thanks a ton and *huggles you right back*