i have the same problem. its sort of this limbo of uncertainty. well, i guess that is what limbo is but you get the idea.
i'm here already, for over two weeks, due to winter session. so, most people who go here are still off [including most of my dorm, and my roommate]. but. its almost a wish to have the freedom, and the power, and the ability to run your own sechulde, and life like you do at school, but still be with people that you know and know you and you know are truely your friends.
it just seems that something isn't right. i've got the same problem. as i am sure others do, but are unwilling to admit it.
when i got back here, the kids who are here were dieing to come back. while i was still good for another week off to see everyone and do everything. either way it never seems like enough.
college is a time of change, for everyone. both good and bad.
and i spoke to a lot of my friends who are already in/graduated from college and grad school and whatnot. and they all said the same thing. that it is an adjustment, and its difficult. and the first semester is the worst. second semester you sort of have an idea of how to balance school and a social life and all that. and are able to do more and better manage your time. and that when you get into the next few years, you will find more people than you would have imagined that hated their freshman year.
mainly that, i think anyway, is based on the fact that you are so used to this one group of friends, who know everything about you, and when you say nothing is wrong they know something is up. these other people at school have no idea. its a chance to start over, but its also takes time to realize that if something is wrong and you don't say something, no one is going to come to your rescue at school. and that, most of your friends come from your hall and maybe a few random classes, like music or something where you see a lot of the same people all the time. that sort of thing. but unlike you entire school career, you made most of your friends in your classes, they sat next to you, in front of you, behind you. yea for alphabetical order! but now. its everyone for herself, and its all about meeting people in other places-clubs/sports/dorm to an extent.
it was all too easy. then life and school got in the way and messed everything up.
it will get better, it just takes time, and maybe after you get there it won't be so bad.
remember. this is not the stone age, and its not the same as when our parents went to college. now, with technology and the ability to instantly talk to people almsot whenever, will allow more friendships to last the test of college and being separated. it will evidently make all those vacations that much better, and far more bareable when you know you still have your friends at home willing to hang out.
although long winded i do understand where you are coming from with all of it. good luck. feel better. and i am up to all sorts of random hours. so if you ever need to talk or something, you are always welcome to find me. :]
i'm here already, for over two weeks, due to winter session. so, most people who go here are still off [including most of my dorm, and my roommate]. but. its almost a wish to have the freedom, and the power, and the ability to run your own sechulde, and life like you do at school, but still be with people that you know and know you and you know are truely your friends.
it just seems that something isn't right. i've got the same problem. as i am sure others do, but are unwilling to admit it.
when i got back here, the kids who are here were dieing to come back. while i was still good for another week off to see everyone and do everything. either way it never seems like enough.
college is a time of change, for everyone. both good and bad.
and i spoke to a lot of my friends who are already in/graduated from college and grad school and whatnot. and they all said the same thing. that it is an adjustment, and its difficult. and the first semester is the worst. second semester you sort of have an idea of how to balance school and a social life and all that. and are able to do more and better manage your time. and that when you get into the next few years, you will find more people than you would have imagined that hated their freshman year.
mainly that, i think anyway, is based on the fact that you are so used to this one group of friends, who know everything about you, and when you say nothing is wrong they know something is up. these other people at school have no idea. its a chance to start over, but its also takes time to realize that if something is wrong and you don't say something, no one is going to come to your rescue at school. and that, most of your friends come from your hall and maybe a few random classes, like music or something where you see a lot of the same people all the time. that sort of thing. but unlike you entire school career, you made most of your friends in your classes, they sat next to you, in front of you, behind you. yea for alphabetical order! but now. its everyone for herself, and its all about meeting people in other places-clubs/sports/dorm to an extent.
it was all too easy. then life and school got in the way and messed everything up.
it will get better, it just takes time, and maybe after you get there it won't be so bad.
remember. this is not the stone age, and its not the same as when our parents went to college. now, with technology and the ability to instantly talk to people almsot whenever, will allow more friendships to last the test of college and being separated. it will evidently make all those vacations that much better, and far more bareable when you know you still have your friends at home willing to hang out.
although long winded i do understand where you are coming from with all of it. good luck. feel better. and i am up to all sorts of random hours. so if you ever need to talk or something, you are always welcome to find me. :]
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