Cancelling a Wedding?

[gwenstylez]

Has anyone here ever canceled their wedding two months before the big day in order to elope? What was your reaction from family/friends? Was it hard to get a hold of everyone to tell them the wedding was called off

Comments

[a_tiny_goat]

I'm not sure if this would help for your situation at all.. but, what if you two were to elope in secret and have that as your own success, and then let the rest of the wedding BS play out as written? No one would have to know except for you, FH and the person marrying you.

This came up for DH and I because we were both so over the petty drama that kept coming up with us and our families, but I was concerned that if I just said to hell with it all, I would regret it and piss off way to many people.

Either way, good luck with everything! A bottle of wine may help too :)

[meredith_mae]

There could be legal ramifications if they are being married legally on BOTH occasions.

[chapstickqueen]

I was originally invited to a wedding like this! Invitations were mailed about 3 months before the wedding, I RSVPd right away. About a month before the wedding, I received a notice of cancellation, printed on invitation-like paper very nicely. The couple eloped on the beach on their scheduled wedding day [she in her pouffy princess dress originally intended for a formal evening country club weddin!].

If it's that you're planning to elope, I'd formally send something to all guests who were invited [if you already sent out invitations]. If you didn't send out invitations, or if it were the case that the wedding was cancelled/not postponed, I'd have the moms call the families and you two tell your friends/other personal guests.

[ayashi]

I probably wouldn't be that pissed, unless I already purchased a plane ticket (which I know some family members of mine purchased at least 4 months out before the wedding). Could end up causing even more drama by trying to go the less drama route. :( Good luck!

[etoilepb]

I think plane tickets are the only real objection I'd have, too. They're almost never refundable and I've spent a LOT of money I didn't really have on flying to close friends' weddings in the past few years.

If most guests aren't long distance, though? Might be worth it!

[extoria]

Unless travel is to, say, Jamaica or some really great destination where people would want to go anyway and might honestly be glad there's no wedding to much up their tourist time?? Hehehe j/k but this actually happened to a girl I know recently. Her fiance called off their Jamaican destination wedding, like, a week beforehand. As far as I know, everyone still went and had a good time. Heh. Bad example, I know ;)

[elemmennope]

I think I'd admire it. The thought seems to enter almost everyone's minds. But when you're in that deep, it's hard to cancel stuff without losing a lot of money. But yeah, part of me would think "smart bastards."

Enjoy your elopement!

[nurse2k]

22 days out from my wedding and I am so envious if you could do this :-P not only for drama but financial purposes