No, I'm not sorry.

[vyshella]

Neither one of us officially proposed to the other. No down on one knee and a ring in in a box.

Just snuggling in the dark, a long talk about the day's news, that ended with, "Alright, it's time. Let's do it."

We did not have a ceremony, no.

Just me, him, and a JP in an office so messy it make me think someone was getting investigated.

No reception

Comments

[louli_rabbit]

You and John were the only special you need.

I wish you two all the happiness in the world!

[vyshella]

I know you get that. And that is part of why I love you. I just needed to vent a little from dealing with too many people who don't get that. And I find it hard to address it at the time without... well... utterly insulting them.

~snuggles the rabbit~

[louli_rabbit]

People forget that because something is done "a" way doesn't mean it "the" way everyone really wants it done.

When I had mine I got a "but it's your special day shouldn't you do it this way..." and I said "yeah, it's my(our) special day, how about we do it the way we want?"

Vent away!!!

[symmetrian]

A-fucking-plus, I say.

I am so tired of the complete and utter bullshit involved in what should be a very natural experience, that of two folks finding each others' company pleasant and their bodies entertaining.

As you know, I'm very pro-monogamy, but all the labels and ceremony and ritual, the officiating and the horseshit of involving other people in something that is personal and intimate.

[symmetrian]

Since you mentioned my monogamy comment, I figured I'd clarify - I am pro monogamy for *ME*. Don't give a fuck about anyone else, nor do I define any relationship (married or not) as monogamous by default.

[yammermoon]

Has it been 10 years? Man time flies, I remember when you first came up north. Seems like just yesterday.

[vyshella]

Well, it's actually only been 9 years since I moved up here. It's been 10 years since John and I decided that when all you really want to do is fall asleep in the other person's arms... it might be time to stop saying, "We're just friends."

Besides, as a friend pointed out... just friends never have to actually say 'just friends.'

[willowdrea]

Good for you! If you're gonna get married, I am all for doing it the way that YOU want to do it, not the way that other people want you to do it, or the way that everyone is raised to think it is "supposed to be done".

[absynthenights]

Amen sister. All the trappings don't make the reality.
Love you both.