i did stuff this weekend! and stuffed my face a lot.

[tsuki_no_bara]

happy birthday (slightly late) to ragingpixie (fellow fan of the frosting! and also writer of hot men!) and kita0610 (fellow fangirl! and also member of the tribe!)! there are a lot of ! in there.... anyway, i hope your birthdays were fab and full of good wishes and cake. :D

dancing boys: *high kicks*

cee_m is running a fandom charity exchange which is currently

Comments

[rysmiel]

I don't think I have a reaction to Shame beyond a scream of rage at the whole "if you're not doing normative monogamist-type love you have to be living a hollow life and miserable inside really" vibe, which is a thing that hits happy poly me where I live.

[tsuki_no_bara]

well, but brandon didn't seem interested in any of the women he screwed beyond the screwing. if he'd been emotionally invested in any of them, or even seemed to want to be emotionally invested in any of them, and his sleeping around and watching porn was still seen as a pathology, then yeah, that's pretty clearly a swipe at non-monogamous people. but if he actually cared about anybody - if he seemed to be actively seeking poly relationships, rather than just warm bodies with which to get his rocks off - i wouldn't have thought he needed therapy.

[rysmiel]

No argument there. I just got the vibe that the narrative was viewing the sleeping around and watching porn as part and parcel of not wanting to be emotionally invested in other people, and these two things are so not the same. Grumble grump moan.

[azewewish]

Not to butt in (really *g*), but I didn't get that vibe at all from the film. It was clear, to me, that Brandon was suffering from a disease, an addiction, as real and destructive as alcohol or drugs and he couldn't help the cycle he was in or the downward spiral his life was going down, no matter how much he tried to force the addiction away by sheer will. I thought it was a very brutally true look at addiction and how it colors and takes over your entire life and how nothing else matters, even though satisfying the addiction doesn't bring you any peace or joy.

I think Brandon desperately wants some emotional investment with someone - with anyone, and I found myself hoping that he & Cissy both got ALL OF THE THERAPY ever to help them.

[tsuki_no_bara]

but i'm trying to write a bigbang and apparently i can only write one thing at a time! alsoikindasuckatwritingforpromptsfromstrangers. i still owe two podfics for previous charity auctions, otherwise i'd offer a podfic. at least i can pimp....

any organization that encourages girls to be smart and strong and independent and creative is good in my book. the fact that i love their cookies is kind of a bonus.

[azewewish]

Loved Shame to pieces, in spite of the fact that it was a VERY hard movie to watch & neither Brandon nor Cissy were very sympathetic characters. I think the fact that I still felt for them & wanted them to get help & get their shit together spoke volumes about the amazing work that Fassy & Carey did in their roles. Just two incredible performances, and a very stark, brutal, gut-punch of a film.

[tsuki_no_bara]

they were unsympathetic! altho i thought she was slightly less so than he was. but the seeds seemed to be there for a good relationship between the two of them, at least, and i wanted them to be able to be better for each other. and then maybe they could be better for other people.

i couldn't get over how stark and oddly impersonal brandon's apartment was, and how weird it was that he had - and used! - a record player, rather than a cd player or something. in some ways it seemed set earlier than 2011 or 2012, like it took place in no particular year.

[azewewish]

Yeah, I hope they can work past their shit and have a functioning, adult relationship. Because it's clear they need each other, but it's also clear that, right now, they're really bad for each other.

[ragingpixie]

I am also a tribe member, lest you forget. ;) THANK YOU! *has cake*

[kita0610]

I can vouch. I saw her at the last Elders of Zion meeting. She was passing out bagels.

[tsuki_no_bara]

i knew that! i just... don't remember all the time. >.<

cake WITH GIANT FROSTING ROSES. natch. :D

[kita0610]

Thank you! ♥

[tsuki_no_bara]

you're very welcome! (and thank you for the bright spot that is vk grinning like that.)