Good thing we spoiled our baby

[thesynergizer]

This article is absoltutely amazing. I am floored by this woman's eloquence and education on the subject. I have a few hundred thousand people I'd like to give this too, but for now, I guess I'll just link it here. Most likely, I'll just be preaching to the choir though, as anyone who reads it will most likely already agree and know these things

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[jazzistar79]

In one of the classes I took last semester we were required to read a book called "A Secure Base," and it talked about research finding that it was actually beneficial to an infant to tend to them when they cried and give them what they wanted/needed. I have long heard people say to let babies cry themself to sleep and not to hold them too much, etc and even though I don't have kids, I thought doing those things was just cruel. The book we read went on to say that doing that to your child would actually teach them to be insecure adults. So I am definitely on your side...believe me, when I do have a baby I will not leave him to cry himself to sleep or only feed him when the clock says he should be hungry.

[thesynergizer]

oh thank you so very much for your reply. hearing this really means a lot to me. its nice to know that maybe the things I say and do can make a difference out there. i'm sure that your future child will be loved and blessed to have you as a mom. before i had my son, i knew i would nurse, and i think i knew i'd nurse on demand and hold him when he cried, but past that, i wasn't really sure.

we purchased a crib when i was pregnant, because that's just what you do, you know? you put your baby in a cage to sleep alone. (there are some babies who sleep better in their own space, but most prefer being close with mama) the first time i slept with my infant son, it was literally an accident. i'd been nursing him in bed and was rocking him to sleep and fell asleep somewhat upright with him lying on my stomach. it was the best sleep i'd gotten since he was born. so that's what we decided to do, and i'm so glad we did. :-)

[powerpuffer]

it is the last 15 minutes of my work day and I have stuff to do but I cannot wait to read this at home tonight, and in fact I already forwarded it to a friend with whom I was having this convo w today! =D

[thesynergizer]

did you get to it? its really awesome ...

:-)

[powerpuffer]

Yes, it was a very nice article. I definitely agree with it all <3

[thesynergizer]

:-)

I'm glad to hear that you had a chance to look at it. It really is very well done.

[preachan_sidhe]

Oh man. I had to deal with a scheduled baby at christmas, my cousin's. It broke my heart because when I held her? She started making the nursing signals...she wanted to nurse but you know, she was on a schedule. :( I couldn't hold her any more.

Can you imagine what it would have done physically to Alex if I'd not nursed on demand? He's freaking skinny as it is and always has been.

[thesynergizer]

i can't hold other people's hungry babies. the temptation to feed them is too strong. i think "oh a quick suck or two won't hurt!" LOL!

[preachan_sidhe]

I am all dried up and it was even a temptation to me. LOL.

[peregrinefalcon]

I read :-)

[thesynergizer]

thank you. i have never had any doubt about your mama-ing skills :-)

[tobeginagain]

i read.

[thesynergizer]

hey thanks! that's awesome.

i honestly have no idea about you and children ... pro-kids? anti-kids? maybe someday if you meet the right person and he wants kids then you'll have a kid?

i've known you for a really long time and yet you're a mystery to me ... i still remember that article you sent me about barren women and how they are not being singled out or punnished by g-d. it was really meaningful that you took the time to share it with me. amazingly, i was pregnant with benjamin at the time, but didn't know it yet. :-)

hope everything is going well in your life, and am glad to see that you're around again.