If there were in fact such a candidate, I would actually consider giving up my lifestyle. But I'm picky, and so until I find a compelling reason to give up the irresponsible nomad playboy do-what-you-like lifestyle, I won't.
A compatible candidate wouldn't ask you to give up the life you find fun. My career is going to have a considerable amount of nomadism as well (though predictable in terms of locations), so anyone asking me to settle is asking me to give up my dreams. Forget it, I'm not going for that. I know I'd be best off with someone else who has nomadic tendencies, as long as there is some homebase somewhere in the world where I can keep all of my books, and that he and I can share the whole taking-care-of-the-kids thing.
It's not really a matter of someone saying "you can't go/do X". It's just that married people tend to have a lot of married-people obligations. Sick relatives, friends' weddings and social things. Whatever obligations that one has that prevent an individual from doing a particular thing, a couple has potentially twice as many. I am not talking about stifling or overbearing partners, I am talking about things that just sort of come up in a LTR or marriage that stifle to some extent a free-wheeling lifestyle.
Why should they? People don't need their partners holding their hand through everything. They can still have their own separate interests, travels, obligations. Just because you become one unit on legal paper doesn't mean that you're not independent human beings. And really, how often do the "sick relatives, friends' weddings, social things" really come up? Not that often in my experience.
I'm in agreement with kali_kali. The right person will accept you as you are. It will be you that will decide to make changes, if changes are necessary, because you're ready and because you want to.
that was the most amazing game ive ever seen and vancouver will ever see again. how did you get those tickets? did you go through the vanoc site, or did you risk fake tickets through craiglist?
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A compatible candidate wouldn't ask you to give up the life you find fun. My career is going to have a considerable amount of nomadism as well (though predictable in terms of locations), so anyone asking me to settle is asking me to give up my dreams. Forget it, I'm not going for that. I know I'd be best off with someone else who has nomadic tendencies, as long as there is some homebase somewhere in the world where I can keep all of my books, and that he and I can share the whole taking-care-of-the-kids thing.
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I can't tell you how glad I am Chicago did *not* get the 2016 Games.
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I kinda hope not, for the sake of the Canucks. :(
how did you get those tickets?
Greg Mueller sold them to me (he got in when they released a small block of tickets on Saturday morning).
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