Comments | squeakywheel: I miss my friends.

squeakywheel

I miss my friends.

Mar 15, 2007 13:13

I had a grand, snotty-nosed cry-a-thon at my therapist's office yesterday evening. It was nice in the sense that I always feel better after a good cry, but it also forced me to consider that I don't think I've made any damn progress in therapy (where "progress" is defined as some kind of self-betterment) since I started seeing Karen nearly nine ( Read more... )

coworkers, lindsay, depression, milo, guinea pigs, death, dirk, disappointment, karen, sad, counseling, maggie

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spicada March 15 2007, 23:26:11 UTC

Not in ANY way, whatsoever, to belittle Milo or his death, but people just don't understand. Most people I know had a mouse, hamster or gerbil growing, until it died a few months later, that is. They're kind of thought of as disposable (not that they are), and next to goldfish, they're those cute little critters kids can "practice responsibility" on. Unfortunately, most people don't see a big difference from those and guinea pigs.

I'm sorry, gal, that you're coworkers didn't understand that your loss is as important and heart-rending to you as a cat's or dog's death may be to one of them.

squeakywheel March 18 2007, 21:23:29 UTC

Thanks. I know exactly what you mean. Most people don't understand that Milo was important to me--importane enough to justify more than just an hour or so of sadness. I am still upset about it but going to move on, because what good is moping doing me? :P

spicada March 18 2007, 22:28:15 UTC

Moping and mourning are two very different things, and you should take as much time as you need to do the latter.

princerudy March 16 2007, 12:45:28 UTC

Oh, Kate. I feel so bad for the hard time you are having right now.

If it's any consolation at all, I would have sent you a card if I had your address. Honest, I would have - not just because you just mentioned that you didn't get any. And I still will if you want to send it to me!

squeakywheel March 18 2007, 21:23:58 UTC

You're so sweet and just saying that means a lot. You really don't have to but thank you.

prophetess666 March 18 2007, 01:22:50 UTC

I'm sorry your coworkers aren't understanding. My guess is they just don't realize how much Milo was a part of your life. I tend to find that some people really really adore their pets and they understand this kind of thing, and then other people just have their pets as another accessory. I had coworkers at eBay who would get upset if I referenced one of my dogs as a comparison to a behavior their kids exhibited, and I suppose I understand when it comes down to it, but my pets are like kids to me, so I think of them more on those terms.

I think any pet dying, if you are attached to it and care about it, has got to be a big deal. You wouldn't be human if it weren't. I wish there were something I could do to help you. I'd love to send you a present if you'd give me your address :) You can email it to me if you'd like, crystaltheprophetess at yahoo dot com.

squeakywheel March 18 2007, 21:27:36 UTC

Some people really do think of pets as disposable. It's not that they're heartless and don't get upset if the pet dies, but they move on quickly and replace it almost immediately. It's like they have a dog (or rabbit or turtle) because they think it's necessary to have one--any one. Their pet isn't an individual or part of the family. It's replaceable.

Thanks for offering to send something; I really do appreciate it. You're a sweetheart, really. Just the offering is kind enough.