When it comes to love, am I a cynic or a realist?

[shmivv]

I have more than often been accused by friends of "shitting all over everything" whenever I try to use logic amidst romance.

My sister thinks I'm unromantic because I believe in Prenuptual Agreements.  I can see where someone would think that.  Most of the arguments I've heard against Prenups are romantic ones.  Things like "If you're going into a

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[stargaziey]

I say kudos to you for being realistic. You can still be romantic, but just be smart about it. If you &/or man-to-be don't have much then a prenup may be unnecessary, but still be a very good idea. I think it's very much a necessity if you have established yourself & have your own money, property, etc.

As you said, people change & you never know if the person who you are completely compatible with now may grow in a way, for whatever reason, in a different direction than you. You don't want that to happen & you'll do all that you can to keep your relationship healthy & all, but you can't control all the influences.

You're not assuming the relationship will end, it's just in case something happens. I mean, asking a guy to wear a condom doesn't mean you don't trust him. OK, analogy not on the same level, but there's no harm in protecting yourself because you never know.

[bloodmoonrising]

The only kind of romance that potentially counteracts logic, is the stupidly, butterfly inducing, just started going out kind.

Your point of not knowing what you'll be capable of in 10 years time is dead on (not just with pre-nups, but marriage/relationships in general IMO) people & their life situations change all the time, feelings & personal/professional circumstances aren't static.

The 1950's are like an progressive period of utter stagnation. It was a golden, carefree time...before everyone realised how badly they were getting screwed!

gah, I just agree with all of this SO much! People really hate talking to me about relationship stuff, because i'm so pragmatic about it.
Shit, I should make sure procrastinating reads this...