On Tibarn and ladyparts

[scruffyfeathers]

Right, so, in the interest of not offending anyone here is something I meant to post here and now have more of a reason to. /o/

I sex-swap Tibarn. A lot. Every three months, actually. It's become a running joke and something of a tradition I've upheld at Micro for longer than a year. I try to be extremely careful to clarify that I sex-swap him

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[aristomnom]

eeeeeee does this mean I can tl;dr dialogue with?

It's surprising what a difference it does or doesn't make. The first time around it was impossible to use "she" with Howard, which completely confused people I was threading with. The second time he didn't care. 8D

And with Cain it simply makes no difference at all, either way.

Both these characters are, at heart, "body isn't the important thing" characters. Howard had just internalized a lot of societal stuff, I think, until he had that personal experience.

sorry I may be hijacking. CARRY ON.

[scruffyfeathers]

Yeeees I love tl;dring with people. +3+

Yeah, after the first or second time I did it with Tibarn he was like "Oh, female parts again. Whoop-dee-do." Especially since he has no reason to go "alas! My masculinity is challenged by breasts!" when laguz don't think of gender like that. XD; To him, it's just body parts. The only real inconvenience he gets from it is... he has to sit to pee. :| 's part of why I've been like "well, hmmm. I wonder how different it would be for him if it did involve those little societal quirks?"

You're not hijacking talk to meeeeeeee ♥

[aristomnom]

I guess part of the thing with Howard is... Sephiroth. Howard's already spending huge chunks of time with a guy impossibly past him in strength and, glam hair aside, maxing out the manliness scale. If he weren't already pretty secure about who he was, there's no way he could share a bed with that. (There have been some points where Howard's hit the brakes hard, and looking back it probably is a kind of insecurity.)

I have to admit (somewhat shyly because I don't want to inspire backcombing through threads to criticize muns, but frankly Howard's been around so long it's a needle/haystack game,) he's had some sexist stuff tossed his way. And my OOC response has been annoyance, like "why is that expected to be a difference, and why are you bringing it up where it's going to affect gameplay/he's going to have to react."

[scruffyfeathers]

SORRY I STARTED TO ANSWER THIS but then I got distracted introducing Glass to "Eric and the Gazebo." XD;

Y-yeah, I could see where his relationship kinda gives him that perspective! If you can go "I'm me, and I'm comfortable being me" in the first place, then it's easier to adapt to what amounts as a temporary, physical-only difference. Or something. Ramble ramble.

Y-yeah, I think a lot of people really don't... recognize that there's a difference between sex and gender, and thus sex-swapping and gender-swapping. And then with both they pile on expectations born from stereotypes, on top of that. It makes me very sad. :( Both because you have people going "Why isn't he acting like this with these stereotypes? DOING IT RONG" and people who go "Well he has a vagina so that means he wants a pink drink now cause girls like pink." or "Girls are whiny and insecure and weak so now he should be, too." I orz forever.