Anybody else feel me on this?

[randomneses]

So for just about all of Middle and High School I wore my hair straight. Press n curl, no chemicals, just straightened with a bit of curl that would die off after a few days and just look bone straight and usually lifeless until I got my hair done again a couple weeks later

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[rosephile]

Yeah...that---the way you've said it, it sounds like they're saying you're not as pretty with natural hair. NICE. (and also INCORRECT, imo)

/white person comment, feel free to ignore

[randomneses]

Ha, see my eta!

[givemethechild]

Personally, this white girl envies the wild natural style. But I'm stuck with stick-straight thin stuff that I can't do anything with.

Now I feel guilty for thinking that my friends' hair is fabulous. Damn.

[astrofisica]

Personally, this white girl envies the wild natural style.

NO.

You, as a white person, are not allowed to say this. No. No. No. Our hair is not "wild". It is just a different goddamn texture. And no. You do not envy our hair because why would you. You do not have to deal with the political baggage that comes with having black hair texture. You are not told that having it in its natural texture is a "political" statement. You do not have to press it and flatten and told to chemically straighten it to fit the European standard of beauty. Do you not realize how condescending you sound right now? Because, spoiler alert, you might think your comment is a compliment but it really isn't. I cannot believe you thought this mess was okay to bring to Ashley's post. You might view this as an overreaction on my part but IDGAF. I just cannot right now. Just the fuck.

Yeah, what she said.

[jazzypom]

When an editor of glamour can say that locks and natural hair doesn't suit the work place (a white woman btw), or when black children (in my acquaintance) are favourites, not because of their personalities or the fact that they are great people- but just because they have that 'pretty hair' makes the comment all the more insulting, because you don't know what all that centuries of indoctrination has done to black people and their viewpoints to hair.

For white people, highly textured hair is a 'novelty', for the owners of said hair, it's a lot more than that.

Re: Yeah, what she said.

[randomneses]

For white people, highly textured hair is a 'novelty', for the owners of said hair, it's a lot more than that.

This x a million

[lavinialavender]

I just want to say that I've recently realized that I find girls with fairly big-sized afros to be pretty damn hot. (My best friend brosedshield excluded.) Like this chick. Omg.

But I also find Zoe Saldana obvs. gorgeous as well with her straight 'dos (that I've seen).

Anyway, I might compliment a black girl on her hair, but I would never tell her how she should wear it. O.O Black hair remains very mysterious to me, anyway.

[eumelkeks]

Maybe they just think it suits you better? I know everyone would think I look better with long hair than short hair and it's not an insult to my innate prettiness if they point it out. That said, I have never seen you with straightened hair, so I'm not biased. AND I LOVE YOU WITH NATURAL HAIR, MKAY?

[randomneses]

That's a nice thought if natural hair/styles that aren't straight wasn't so often given negative connotations. Natural hair is seen as rebellious, militant, and sometimes just straight up messy and unkempt and "nappy". So when someone, especially if they're white, is like DYING to see me with OMG STRAIGHT HAIR I immediately get mildly offended and suspicious and I don't really think that it's too far fetched given, as I've said, the stigma against natural hair.