Comments | raidingparty: I need a Waaahhmbulance

raidingparty

I need a Waaahhmbulance

Mar 29, 2011 22:39

Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to hide the bodies of the fools who dared to oppose me.Forgot dreams both Monday and Tuesday morning... if I tried to recount them now, they'd be intentional fabrications. Woke up to some wonderful thunderstorms Monday morning, fell ( Read more... )

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cailement March 30 2011, 02:47:33 UTC

raidingparty March 30 2011, 02:49:39 UTC

momentai March 30 2011, 04:12:15 UTC

If it makes you feel better, I'm not going to try making you feel better by saying my life is worse in some way ( ... )

chris_warrior March 31 2011, 01:02:58 UTC

i think the key is as it has always been: to stop trying to do absolutely everything and prioritize the things you really feel are "right." i still recommend some meditation with the mantra "Sat Nam" (true name).

balance exercises will help strengthen your ankles.

good luck on the financial front. i wish i had better advice other than "spend money more wisely" because you probably know that. :) but it's on *my* list of resolutions. of course the roommate thing might still be your easiest fix here, if you can find a good person.

i do still think it's dangerous to feel better about who you are because other people think well of you. been fighting that one myself for years now. loving you because you're simply a good person, i think, is the ultimate goal.

raidingparty March 31 2011, 23:01:25 UTC

Thanks!

"spend money more wisely" would be fantastic if I could travel back in time and not buy a condo, but I still haven't finished my time machine.
Actually, there are people for whom going bankrupt and/or foreclosing is actually the best financial option. I don't think it's mine, though.

It's not strictly the "well"ness, it's the fact that others verify some things I like about myself... something of a combination of reflected reality and compliment. I'm not sure, and am absolutely sure we're looking at it differently. What danger do you see?

chris_warrior March 31 2011, 23:14:23 UTC

perhaps we are looking at it differently, but i've always seen it as a potential pitfall. the reflection can be removed at any time, and yet you still have to be happy with who you are, and sure of what is true about you whether or not you get feedback.

i kind of like this article: http://valuelifebalance.blogspot.com/2010/12/living-without-seeking-approval.html

chris_warrior March 31 2011, 23:17:56 UTC

i've also done a lot of work along the lines of this article: http://www.life-with-confidence.com/break-approval-seeking-habits.html