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[plaguemachine]

My cousin's daughter had a baby. I was concerned as to how it would all turn out because she is only 15. Luckily, she procreated with a great guy, who isn't at all afraid of being a dad at 16 and is completely ready [emotionally] to handle the situation, and her family is very supportive of her

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[plaguemachine]

Thank you. :) I think you're right, and there will be no doubt in her son's mind that he is loved. My cousin is letting the young family live with her, her fiance and my aunt. My cousin has another blood-related daughter and custody of another cousin's two oldest children. I come from a big family as it is, but they have them all together in one house! Even though they were upset about the whole thing at the onset, they are being so supportive of her, and I don't worry that everything will fall apart. The baby daddy isn't close with his family, but my cousin and her family have basically taken him in as one of their own. I think it will be a good, loving environment for a baby, and I can tell already that they are going to be great parents, young or not, because their number one priority is their son.

[certaintragedy]

That is amazing! Glad she's okay & has a great support system!

[plaguemachine]

Thanks! I'm glad, too. :)

[skindyedindigo]

Reading this makes me happy. In the media there is constant slewing of the girls who are 14 sleeping with a plethora of men to just have a baby (just youtube the Maury show, it seems that all he does not is intervene unruly promiscuous girls!). And those girls make me so sad, having no respect for their bodies or for what their actions will cause. And it is because of those girls, at least in my opinion, that girls such as your cousin are given such poor treatment.

It makes me so irritated and sad when I see all the situations amassed together. The girl who's had sex once and had a baby at 15 is not the same at the 14 year old who is having unprotected sex with five different men just to conceive a child. And yet the media doesn't see that.

I'm glad that she has such a support system and that her boyfriend has stepped up to be a father. That speaks volumes in regard to his character. Hopefully with such resources available she can be another woman that will prove the media statistics wrong.

[plaguemachine]

I think it's even worse in some ways. The anti-teen pregnancy movies of the past (Fifteen and Pregnant) have been replaced with shows that almost glamorize it (Teen Mom, 16 and Pregnant). "If I have a baby, I can be on TV!" You're right that the media doesn't focus on that a lot, and only speak of the negative types hoping that it will discourage girls. Abstinence only education makes it even worse because now, girls are having sex without the knowledge to protect themselves.

It is akin to the person who loses their job, and people act as though not having one, no matter how hard they are trying, is just the product of laziness rather than actual struggle. People feel like they need to complain about how much of their money goes into the system, but don't seem to realize that there are people who need it and are not just there to take advantage of it. People assume that if a girl gets pregnant, that's another person their taxes are going toward, whether it is actually true or not.

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