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[pelliondance]

It's a weird thing to find your birth family. Working out where they belong in your life. And where you belong in theirs. When you know only the parents and siblings you grew up with, there's a sort of ladder of kinship priorities which shift as you go through different events that bring new categories of relative into your life-getting married,

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[cajetan65]

A bit of the salty liquid stuff is obscuring my vision just now...

I happen to concur with the final parenthetical comment in the penultimate paragraph... :)

Bloke walks into a bar in Texas... Has three beers, each with a whisky chaser, one after the other... Turns around, addresses the assembled multitude... "I think George W. Bush is a horse's butt!!!"... Biggest guy in the room sidles over and flattens him...

The guy gets up slowly, and (considering his face is radically re-arranged) says the following words to the guy who thumped him... "I'm sorry, I had a little too much to drink - I didn't think that you guys'd be Bush people...

His assailant said, "We ain't - we're HORSE people..."

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[pelliondance]

:)

[alwayskiwi]

It is a strange situation for everybody really. I think I always knew that my family was incomplete, there was a slight sense of loss always around. I was much older before I understood why it was there, and once I did understand the loss was even harder to take. Once there has been re-union for the birth family the situation is very clear. That which was lost has been found, their family is complete again. For the adoptee however the situation is much more ambivilent. They have a family, for the most part a wonderful loving family. Where then does this new group of people claiming kinship come into the picture?
I have done some reading about this situation recently (I wonder why?) and I have found that reunions do not always work. I think that we have been increadibly lucky and the re-union has been really wonderful for all the parties concerned. At least I hope so.

[pelliondance]

It's been brilliant. I've actually given up my lifelong ambition never to go to Australia.

[cannopener]

You do know I want to come with you, don't you?

[pelliondance]

Yup.