David and I have an interesting setup these days - if it involves dishonesty, it's probably cheating. If there's skin on skin contact uncleared by the other partner that involves anything more than a kiss, that may count. I'm not the best person to be answering this though, especially considering the turn our...um, understanding of the term has come to.
i think its doing anything you would normally do with your significant other, with someone else. kissing holding hands cuddling fawking etc. ive been cheated on a million times we all know that i dont put up with anything anymore.
I've written it like 5 times and can't spit out my point.
So, I'll use my situation to explain.
If Phil asked another girl for her phone number (in a manner other than being friends), that's cheating.
If he kissed another girl, that's definitely cheating.
If he checked another girl out or told me that he thinks another girl is attractive, that's not cheating.
If he touched another girl in a manner other than being friends (i.e. In places that he would feel comfortable touching his mother/sisters), that's cheating.
If he went to coffee or dinner with a girl, that's not cheating.
and in all this I realize that I may have missed the question...
When you enter a relationship you agree to certain rules and if those rules are not understood then you should immediately find your partner and have them spelled out. It leads to a lot less heartache if you do.
Cheating is anything that falls outside of the guidelines that have been agreed on by you and your partner and the ability to remain in good faith.(for example if you agree you cannot sleep with another person, having sex with them and not staying the night does not preclude you from cheating because you know what was meant and though the letter of the law is obeyed, you are not remaining in good faith.)
I think the big thing about cheating is selfishness. People cheat, because they think they can have their cake and eat it to. When you are in a relationship, and you choose to cheat, it's all about the potential for forgiveness. "I'll never do it again, it was a one time thing, they meant nothing to me, it was just sex.." Those are the excuses that people who cheat always use. The thing, is 9 times out of 10, the person they cheated on thinks, "Wow, well, it's not like we broke up..so they must mean this apology". I know I fell for it..and got cheated on over and over again.
well, this is what i've talked about with the guy i have been on and off dating...suzanne1981October 8 2004, 09:06:59 UTC
cheating: holding hands, kissing on the lips, anything more than kissing.
not cheating: hugs, kisses on the cheek, going out places, checking out members of the opposite sex (discreetly).
on the fence cheating (we are allowed to get mad and fight about! hahah): endearing terms meant only for girlfriends (honey, sweetie, snukkums, baby), long talks with someone on the phone or in person for more than an hour and not taking the call from ME while on that phone call, and tickling or pinching or smacking or full on flirting.
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I've written it like 5 times and can't spit out my point.
So, I'll use my situation to explain.
If Phil asked another girl for her phone number (in a manner other than being friends), that's cheating.
If he kissed another girl, that's definitely cheating.
If he checked another girl out or told me that he thinks another girl is attractive, that's not cheating.
If he touched another girl in a manner other than being friends (i.e. In places that he would feel comfortable touching his mother/sisters), that's cheating.
If he went to coffee or dinner with a girl, that's not cheating.
Comprende?
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When you enter a relationship you agree to certain rules and if those rules are not understood then you should immediately find your partner and have them spelled out. It leads to a lot less heartache if you do.
Cheating is anything that falls outside of the guidelines that have been agreed on by you and your partner and the ability to remain in good faith.(for example if you agree you cannot sleep with another person, having sex with them and not staying the night does not preclude you from cheating because you know what was meant and though the letter of the law is obeyed, you are not remaining in good faith.)
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I think the big thing about cheating is selfishness. People cheat, because they think they can have their cake and eat it to. When you are in a relationship, and you choose to cheat, it's all about the potential for forgiveness. "I'll never do it again, it was a one time thing, they meant nothing to me, it was just sex.." Those are the excuses that people who cheat always use. The thing, is 9 times out of 10, the person they cheated on thinks, "Wow, well, it's not like we broke up..so they must mean this apology". I know I fell for it..and got cheated on over and over again.
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not cheating: hugs, kisses on the cheek, going out places, checking out members of the opposite sex (discreetly).
on the fence cheating (we are allowed to get mad and fight about! hahah): endearing terms meant only for girlfriends (honey, sweetie, snukkums, baby), long talks with someone on the phone or in person for more than an hour and not taking the call from ME while on that phone call, and tickling or pinching or smacking or full on flirting.
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